my parents, being amazing, recently had us over for a conversation about a remodeling project to make their home more accessible *before* one of them gets sick or frail enough to need it. they're very aware of the risk of getting sucked dry by the American elder care system.
@TheDailyBurble I'm not sure I said it was "new." Only that it's our time to go through it and that it's a vibe. Which has nothing to do with war and greed. I've still got to take care of my mom even with worrying about war and greed. I'm not going to stop worrying about my mom or grieving my dad because I'm also worried about war. Is there something wrong with me seeking solidarity with my generational cohorts who are also care-taking parents and grieving them when they die?
@Aphrodite I somehow managed to get both all in one? Like, that "love" me but maybe have a different idea of what love is than I do, or maybe without the capacity to love me the way I'd prefer.
Making strides with mom this week, though. She's trying very hard. So am I.
@TheDailyBurble Where did I blame any previous generation here? Where did I say that no one else feels overstretched? Where did I use generational cohorts in a divisive way? Why is this suddenly a competition?
@TheDailyBurble Because you’re coming into my mentions putting words into my mouth?
I turn 50 soon, so regardless of how old you are, I, too, have many years of being exploited, cheated, robbed, on top of that, abused to the point of being disabled. Also a single parent for the entire life of my son.
My starting assumption, regardless of our relative ages, is that you and I are equals, with different experiences, & that I could teach you as well as you teaching me. So maybe that’s the vibe I’m picking up? That you are coming here with something to teach me in my “ignorance” as my superior, when I haven’t asked to be taught?
What I wanted from my twoot, and what I got from others, was people relating to having grown up through a particular time, with a shared identity & cultural experiences, who are now taking care of parents.
There are social norms for how to politely insert yourself into this conversation without derailing, lecturing, or talking down. Maybe try again?
Sara Joy
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in reply to Aphrodite ☑️ :boost_ok: • • •@Aphrodite I somehow managed to get both all in one? Like, that "love" me but maybe have a different idea of what love is than I do, or maybe without the capacity to love me the way I'd prefer.
Making strides with mom this week, though. She's trying very hard. So am I.
❤️
Mx. Luna Corbden
Unknown parent • • •Mx. Luna Corbden
Unknown parent • • •@TheDailyBurble Because you’re coming into my mentions putting words into my mouth?
I turn 50 soon, so regardless of how old you are, I, too, have many years of being exploited, cheated, robbed, on top of that, abused to the point of being disabled. Also a single parent for the entire life of my son.
My starting assumption, regardless of our relative ages, is that you and I are equals, with different experiences, & that I could teach you as well as you teaching me. So maybe that’s the vibe I’m picking up? That you are coming here with something to teach me in my “ignorance” as my superior, when I haven’t asked to be taught?
What I wanted from my twoot, and what I got from others, was people relating to having grown up through a particular time, with a shared identity & cultural experiences, who are now taking care of parents.
There are social norms for how to politely insert yourself into this conversation without derailing, lecturing, or talking down. Maybe try again?
Jonathan Lamothe
Unknown parent • •@Cabbidges wrote:
Because you're coming across as rather antagonistic?
JDS likes this.
Mx. Luna Corbden
Unknown parent • • •Jonathan Lamothe
Unknown parent • •@Cabbidges To be honest, this whole thread has gone down such a non-sequitur rabbit hole that I'm really not sure how to respond.
I believe the questions you're asking have already been answered.