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There is a concept that some of you might find helpful - "subjective units of distress".
Many years ago, I was struggling badly with my life, going through one mental breakdown after another. I asked my psychiatrist: "How can I live my life if my anxiety goes from 0 to 60 in the matter of seconds?". The psychiatrist said: "But Nina, no one, including you, goes from 0 to 60 instantly. It just feels this way."
So, he explained, human brain is silly and usually cannot tell the difference between not being distressed (SUDS 1) and quite distressed (SUDS 7). As long as we keep functioning, our internal brain state and suffering in it seems to be almost invisible for us.
If I am at SUDS 2, and accidentally spill morning coffee on my blouse, it will probably raise my distress to SUDS 4 or 5, but I will change to a new blouse and go to work.
If I am at SUDS 7 after a doctor's call, and spill coffee on myself, I'll go from being calm to a sobbing mess faster than you can say "therapy".
Keep track of your SUDS!
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Let me find a way to critique without being acerbic. I don't like how people popup to tell me they disagree about how to define the fediverse. But that's not important
What I do think is important is how hard people work to gatekeep and squeeze down the actual promise and potential of the fediverse. It's exactly the kind of pedantic myopia that reminds us that the nerds will not lead us to the future we want. That's not what they do.
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You know what feature I find conspicuously absent from the #LambdaMOO programming language?
Lambdas.
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I love to see news outlets and organizations move from Twitter to the Fediverse and join my instance for example
But I would recommend for such parties to setup their own dedicated instance for a few reasons
- Easier verification aside from the link in the description, if one uses a subdomain for examle (social.news.tld)
- Manage the instance according to the orgs needs
- Easier for people to block whole news parts, because let's be honest. We all need a break sometimes
Just think about it 😉
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Content warning: ph, mention of blood, math/chemistry (possibly incorrect)
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Seems to have been inspired by this: https://archive.ph/G4ai1
Reporting in the Washington Post that the CDC says one day of isolation is enough for COVID cases.
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(taken from the passenger seat)
#Amazon
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I'm working on building a sushi bar in #LambdaMOO. Katy and I had the following conversation regarding the waitress I'm currently programming:
Katy: I'm surprised you didn't make her a robot.
Me: I thought about it, but a lot of the other shops are basically run by vending machines. I wanted to give mine a more human touch... though, right now she crashes when anyone talks to her. Humans don't do that.
Katy: Well, some do.
Me: Okay, fair point.
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Sitting in a waiting room in a medical imaging place and they have an ad for their app to get your results on a mobile device. Among other things, it reads:
"Permanently store them with bank level encryption" (emphasis theirs)
In my experience, if banks are their gold standard of #infosec, I really don't want my medical data anywhere near this system. Just sayin'.
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#AnimalCrossing #ACNH #StarTrek #TWOK
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Today I learned that GNU means GNU is not Ubuntu. The more you know
I don't understand it but I guess it makes sense because GNU is not Linux and Ubuntu is
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Flanders And Swann - The Gnu Song
Great little song from an extremely talented pair..Although I've seen a few versions of this on here (including a Muppets one I didn't know existed!), I thou...YouTube
#lambdaMOO #lifestyle #show #bilingual #chinese #english #MOO #MUD #VR
1400UTC Fri https://anonradio.net/ https://www.moo.mud.org/
Okay in about 5 hours a half hour episode (still) of #ZhenHouseZhenBonkwave will air, #Bonkwave a la @keefmarshall . I am planning to be in the explored location at that time, and phase of the moon willing, UNK will be in @SDF commode chat.
I will add it to the emergency archive location when I have a chance on the 24th (aka the 23rd).
https://gopher.tildeverse.org/tilde.institute/1/~screwtape/zhen-house/
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Should I dive down the rabbit hole of learning #Godot while I already have so many other projects on the go? Probably not.
Am I? Of course.
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@ryan2one3 the creation of the universe is widely regarded as a bad move.
It's boring and it becomes more boring in future. It will become a cold energy soup.
This is now the second time that Katy has tried to FaceTime her mother from the contact on her phone, which she's used a thousand times before, and gotten a random stranger.
Is there a problem with FaceTime's routing or something?
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"your computer looks weird, what is it?"
"it's trenchcoat os - it uses an amoeba microkernel and a port of qemu with GEM as a display environment. It's running on those small spider-like robots that are crawling up the wall."
"I'm calling the cops."
#Git on #Plan9 is borken in weird ways.
Want to rebase branch A on top of branch B? No you don't. You want to change A to match B and drop all other commits.
Want to merge A into B but there's a conflict? Let's just arbitrarily take the line from A and ignore the one from B. That's what you wanted, right?
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Mia Rose Winter :v_greyace:
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I always explain it like, emotions are building up in me, and if I don't do something to reduce pressure again, at some point I will collapse under it, but while it's rising i can still keep it together. To me this is somewhat feel-able, but that's partly bc I have extreme emotions and am very aware of them
Tuxedo Wa-Kamen
in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •Even at 80% load, I can still work at my pace and handle stuff, but when an unexpected extra process starts, "frantically trying to swap memory pages in and out" immediately becomes 98% of what I do.
Nina Kalinina
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in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •And of course, if almost none of that capacity is left, one can't compensate for even minor hiccups.
Nina Kalinina
in reply to Tuxedo Wa-Kamen • • •Tuxedo Wa-Kamen
in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •Then let me quickly infodump these two things:
Vagus-nerve massage (three points in and on each ear to stimulate the vagus nerve that apparently partially controls "stress" and "relaxation" phases). Personally find this very helpful.
And of course: Removing distrations that gnaw on your mind constantly. From that annoying sound to the half-finished project on your desk that you feel vaguely guilty about. (And now that I write it: I should definitely move that electronics stuff on my desk to my workbench. Right now.)
Kevin Granade
in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •Cheradenine Zakalwe
in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •yeah. It can be a surprisingly hard step to take to admit to yourself "I'm not OK."
It's harder still to acknowledge how long you haven't been OK.
Sasha 'squirrel' Göbbels
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in reply to thejikz • • •@thejikz looking out for warning signs helps to change the course of action in time!
PCI sounds a bit stigmatising😀
thejikz
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in reply to Abe the Honest • • •@Nekoplanet there are many; I used to use one that would send me notifications at random intervals to get a more precise picture of my mood changes.
It was horrifying to see that my mood could swing from 2/10 to 9/10 and back in the matter of hours. I was seriously "disregulated" 😀 Having this chart handy easily proved that it's not bipolar ;p
Danielle :antiverified:
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dialectical behaviour therapy, a fork of CBT that actually works and isn't a torture:
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/dialectical-behaviour-therapy-dbt/
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in reply to Pavel Machek • • •@pavel I suppose so. But then I remember getting into real trouble a few times (one was shooting and one was traffic accident), and I remember being strangely chill about either.
I imagine that I'd go from 0 to 60 if I learn something truly terrifying and unexpected...
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in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •My mind is kind of blown 🤯
Hope you don't mind but I thought your text really added value, so I edited the two together so next time I drop a piece of toast and break down crying I can find and re-read it easier 😅
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in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •Hey Matthew, how are you doing today?
Probably around an 8. How about you?
What?
What?
Zeewater
in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •Content warning: Rambles of a chauvinist pig
Due to autism I have no idea what it's like to not be anxious 😅
When I converse with others, I sit at a 4-5
Depending on how the conversation goes, if it's difficult, then it can go into 8-10
I'm currently working on trying to better myself, so I frequently hit those highs lately
I can't always take the extra stress/burden that comes with "becoming aware" and changing in a meaningful way
I try, and I have to, though
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in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •I do like this scala on the one hand, but find it overly simplified on the other.
"Functioning" is a complex matter. Someone in a fight or flight response might function in some areas, although in extreme distress.
Someone with a mix of cPTSD and ADHD might only really function under a certain amount of distress (and yes, I mean distress, not eustress).
So a linear scale doesn't work for many, I'm afraid.
Don't know a better way of visualising thisy though.
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in reply to Nina Kalinina • • •goddammit, I've been trying to explain this to people for years…
"Chill! It's just X…"
"No, it's not just X! Y and Z already happened, so if X happens, it'll be X, Y, and Z—NOT JUST X!"
I'm just gonna start showing them this infograph now instead, thank you.
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