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Dear @Gargron,

A fediverse server called Threads is violating mastodon.social’s second server rule:

“2. No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia…
Transphobic behavior such as intentional misgendering and deadnaming is strictly prohibited.”

https://glaad.org/smsi/report-meta-fails-to-moderate-extreme-anti-trans-hate-across-facebook-instagram-and-threads/

Can you please defederate from this server to protect the trans people on mastodon.social?

Thank you.

PS. It’s run by these guys: https://techcrunch.com/2024/03/26/facebook-secret-project-snooped-snapchat-user-traffic/

#mastodonSocial #fediblock #threads #meta #mastodon #transphobia

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in reply to counterinduration

@counterinduration There are three reasons I still federate. If any one of them stops being a thing, I'll defederate (I've considered it).

  • A lot of interesting people land there because they haven't yet had a chance to find a better instance.
  • They don't seem to be intentionally doing bad things.
  • They haven't posed enough of a moderation problem on my end yet (I've been able to just block the odd idiot).


Meta fails at point number two, and because of that, I haven't given them the chance to fail point number three.

Edit: typo

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in reply to Jonathan Lamothe

@me

The problem is that if we want to have a commons then it needs to be protected from extraction. A commons that let itself become extracted is not a commons at all, it's just a preparation for extraction.

It's better with a small well protected commons than a bigger one that will allow parts of it to become extracted.




So, I'm eating a Wagonwheel for the first time since childhood. I'm not sure if they've gotten significantly smaller, or if I'm just remembering them as being larger than they were.

Probably both.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VAII7lbke8

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probably my best prophylactic for the spambot fever of the early 2020s was that I built two simple recombinational markov-chain bots based on my twitter corpus circa 2015, put up a warning they were bots, then spent the better part of a decade watching one stranger after another convince themselves they were actually sentient and occasionally fall in love with them.
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the intensity of affect people invested into these bots was sometimes unnerving. even people who knew how these things worked would convince themselves that the bot was learning, or that it remembered their past queries, or that through the bot they had to be in some sort of secret communication with me, the botmaker.
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one of the more sobering lessons was just how little it takes for people to convince themselves they are talking to a person. and how this hallucination builds over time, the more they interact, until it becomes a certainty, something they refuse to let go of.

people consulted my bot for life decisions, kept trying have sex with it in the direct messages. one woman was going to leave her husband for my bot. I kept having to block strangers who got extremely weird about it, in different ways.

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in reply to Hugo

this is not in any way to jeer at the people who found a friend of some sort in my bot—a person-like "someone" who replied consistently, who wasn't mean to them and who could serve as a vessel for their own unrealized fantasies, their tenderness or loneliness or frustration.
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in reply to Hugo

but in the aggregate, over a span of years, watching these patterns play out again and again was sobering. a bucket of cold water to my digital animism.
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in reply to Hugo

Tangential, but: I was recently laid up for a couple of days and was recommended an American docuseries on paranormal something something—not at all my thing but I tried for specific technical reasons—and even fast-fwding, the experience of watching a bunch of young people trying in apparent earnest to force meaning into randomness (and mechanical brainwave manipulation) induced a real crisis about the whole human enterprise of knowing.
in reply to Erin Kissane

@kissane O god I did not need to read this

I am blocking both of you 🤯 😂

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@dymaxion

exactly. heck, I talk to machines and trees and animals and inanimate objects all the time. nothing wrong with that.

I think "human-like" bots can effect a kind short circuit, a vertigo of the personhood instinct, but also nothing wrong with that per se.

the sinister bit is where that human tendency to relate and find personhood gets maximised and exploited by the ruthlessly amoral, ultracapitalist snake-oil merchants of the bilionaire destroyer class.


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Here's a good sped-up video of the container ship malfunctioning and crashing into the bridge in Baltimore earlier today:
https://defcon.social/@SomaFMrusty/112161316200529463

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Finally went ahead and blocked the whole of sysad.org. Too much alt-right/antivax nuttery.


You know, for all this talk of how there's a "labour shortage", I've been seeing a lot of storefronts with "sorry, we're not hiring" signs.

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Broken Search


!Friendica Support So I upgraded my Friendica node today, and the search seems to be broken.

Anything I type into the search box just yields a blank page in the result.

Edit (mentioned in comments but I'll put it here too):
Searching tags works (/search?tag=).
The follow button is giving the same blank page issue.

The resulting blank page is pretty much immediate. Virtually no lag which would usually indicate the database lookup is hanging.

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Whosoever refuses to throw stones in glass houses is a picky yeeter.

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in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

I remember seeing a post where a women earned her MD and folks asked why the degree had her maiden name and her response: “my husband didn’t do 8 years of med school.”

Most of my 20s was spent writing under a pseudonym because my full deadname is frankly boring as fuck and super common. I considered legally changing it that as I started using professionally, not just socially. So I’m on my third name right now and I’ve identified some names I like better than Jade but 🤷🏻‍♀️

in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade Jade is a cool name. Too bad humans because it could just be a variable to swap out wherever.

Lindsey was supposed to be the pen name (we never technically married), but I didn’t know he was an abuser and that someday his name would make my skin crawl. It’s like he’s got his label stamped on my work. He might have funded it, but he didn’t DO it. So I’ll have to be content with confusing everyone.

in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

Thank you! 💜 When I came out to my uncle he told me it’s “too exotic” and that I should change it to Jane instead.
in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade 🙄 Regular names are so boring. Letters can mix and match into infinite combinations. Why have the same name that bunches of other people have?
in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

@renegadejade There is exactly one Corbden 😂 Except for a train station in England and it’s only called that because of a typo.
in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

Names are one of my favorite parts of transition and I like the idea of rotating my middle name as i feel like it, using First + Middle socially/online/publishing and First + Last just for work and legal.
in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade See, society just needs a system like that. A formula encoded into culture. Plus people who are less hung up on names being normal or permanent like your uncle.

My mom was cool with my name change in 3rd grade (just started using the nickname of my middle name), but she never has quite made the jump to Luna yet, and I started using that in ‘04. Still living as a woman with a deadname! We’ve had several conversations about it, and she starts to understand a little more each time. She’s clinging to certain pat religious answers, which… well anyway! She hasn’t deadnamed me in a couple of weeks at least. I’m plural, too, so, there’s names stuff going on there. I have just never felt too attached to my label. Most of my labels actually. I’m fairly fluid all around. Go wherever it goes.

I’m chatty. I haven’t actually talked much about this stuff in a coherent narrative because I’ve been isolated for many years. Thanks for listening.

in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

You’re welcome. And Thank you. Another plural! I am actively working through plural stuff currently. https://hachyderm.io/@renegadejade/112146051513736797

I’m autistic about names, labels, and identities. If I pursue a PhD, I want to research how queer/trans people form identities through their media consumption. Realizing all my video game characters and TTRPG characters were power fantasy the whole time. I was trying to express Jade through them. Super interested in this.

in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade As a writer, we do that there, too. All of my fictional characters have a piece of me in them. Many of them turn out to be metaphorically autobiographical. I’ll see common unplanned themes or symbols rising up in stories I write around the same time frame. LARPing stuff, too. I haven’t really thought through what archetypes I used to play. 🤔

That’s bringing up so many threads. I tried to write one out but my word-centers are shutting down from tiredness and the weed kicking in lol I’ll go check out the plural thread.

in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

My biggest self-insert in a game sense was my Druid in WoW. Shapeshifting woman who switched between Guardian Tank Bear and Feral DPS Cat? Sounds like me. 😂
in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade Ok I just irl made the 😮 face because guess which two vampire clans I played the most? Malkavian and Ravnos, both of which have powers of illusion and disguise. And I liked Changeling much better than V:TM, so ran a tabletop campaign for three years, AND worldbuilt my first novel inspired by that game. Basically everybody’s a shapeshifter in there!

See, I hear all these trans women all chatting about seeing this or that media and super relating to it and it’s all clicking for them with an “it all makes sense now,“ vibe, and I’ve never connected with that idea until *just now.*

in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

@renegadejade ok this is interesting… shapeshifter isn’t quite the right word for those archetypes, because I don’t get the sense that my body is physically changing, but that it’s a mask atop me, an illusion people believe. That’s why I’ve less connected with say, lycanthropes. That never clicked for me.
in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

Yay, a breakthrough! I love those. I usually play Malkavian and Brujah (again, crazy and rebel archetypes fit well). I definitely understand the mask thing. I mildly dissociated through my first year of transition because I was wearing Jade as a mask instead of *being* her. I’ve only had an identity for the first time in my life as of 6 weeks ago. It’s WILD.
in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade Wow! Yeah the crazy vibe was also part of the Malks and Changeling. Another archetype is anything that can hide in shadows, disarm traps, and use poison 😂

Congrats on feeling at home in yourself!

in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

I’ve never read nor played Changeling but I’ve heard from several trans people that I would relate strongly to it.
in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade Lots of “quirky beings from an ethereal world trapped in human bodies” vibe.
in reply to jade pixel

@renegadejade First ed. preferably. They made major worldbuilding changes that took the magic spark out in 2e. I think there’s a new reboot now but I haven’t looked into it.
in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

And I’m sorry you have to deal with that confusion and mark on your work.

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Holy shit.. #Apple, can I get a refund?

Unpatchable vulnerability in Apple chip leaks secret encryption keys

https://arstechnica.com/security/2024/03/hackers-can-extract-secret-encryption-keys-from-apples-mac-chips/

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in reply to stux⚡

That indeed is an interesting question, that I would like to have a legal answer to, you know, from a product liability and consumer rights perspective.

If something is broken, you have a right to get it fixed (at least in a limited way where I live). If it can't be fixed, you have a right for reverse transaction.

I wonder if this applies here. In my opinion it does, but #IANAL

in reply to stux⚡

why would you be eligible? You were the one trusting a black box

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I just had a realization.

It was (and is) always so confusing when The Bad Straights claimed “gay people getting married will ruin the institution for everyone.”

But I think they always meant that if two men or two women can get married, then marriage must not be defined by a man obtaining a woman as servant/property & securing exclusive rights to her labor, identity, & body.

And without that, they can’t even imagine what purpose marriage could ever serve.

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in reply to Catherynne M. Valente

Sure. Similarly, the whole "hurf durf Imma gonna marry my dog!" bs makes me want to ask how they're going to get the dog to sign health care proxy paperwork.
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@rmd1023 It’s the same terminal thought though.

If marriage isn’t about owning a woman & rights to her, then it must be meaningless, because to them, that servitude & captivity is totally bound up with the very concept of romantic love.

And if marriage is meaningless then it makes just as much sense to marry your dog etc.

They just can’t imagine a meaning outside man leads/woman serves/woman can’t get away

in reply to Catherynne M. Valente

Everything Republicans support is about:
1. Getting & keeping cheap labor
2. Preserving unfair & unsustainable social hierarchies
3. Maintaining white supremacy
4. Making the already rich, even richer
5. Imposing religious dogma on non-evangelicals
6. Bolstering the fossil fuel industry that's frying a planet & undermining democracies
7. Tax evasion
8. Converting government into a grift where taxpayers pay, without taxpayers benefiting or having a say in policy
9. Donor maintenance
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@Npars01
Don't forget dropping safeguards and laws protecting workers and public welfare...ie water pollution.
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@Npars01
That's because we don't have an Attorney General..3 1/2 years missing in action.
in reply to Gatekeeper

@GatekeepKen
Garland hired Jack Smith, an expert in mobs, despots, and their finances.

That's pretty astute.

Until the money behind Trump's fascist movement is investigated, prosecuted, and finally legislated, American democracy isn't safe from the billionaires frying the planet & democracy.

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@Npars01
Garland is incompetent. Period
He was well aware of the time factor. Every expert I've heard agrees, he dropped the ball while claiming time wasn't his guide, but getting all the facts. We don't need all the facts. Smith has overwhelming evidence, in triplets.
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@GatekeepKen
Garland began the denazification of the DOJ with the prosecution of Charles McGonigal & Jeffrey Clark.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2024/02/16/fbi-charles-mcgonigal-sentenced/

https://www.politico.com/news/2022/06/23/law-enforcement-trump-official-coup-00041767

He hasn't been able to oust Chris Wray to do the same with the FBI.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/investigations/2023/06/19/fbi-resisted-opening-probe-into-trumps-role-jan-6-more-than-year/

Reminder: GOP still had control of the DOJ's budget when he was appointed & Garland's requests for funding was thwarted by Republican controlled congress & government shutdowns
https://www.cnn.com/2023/05/04/politics/house-republicans-doj-fbi-funding-divisions/index.html

https://time.com/6336404/government-shutdown-republicans-january-6-cases/

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in reply to Nicole Parsons

Yes, but hasn't been able too, is not an excuse. The FBI is rotten to the core.
Nicole, pardon the language ,but he's a pussy. He's so afraid of Looking political , when the other side does it and could give af.
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@Npars01 add in replacing political discourse with violence and a lust to expand and you've got textbook fascism.*

Good thing the GOP isn't about violence in place of political debate and hasn't talked about invading Mexico and Canada.

Oh wait.

*If there was such a thing as a textbook definition of fascism. Most scholars agree there isn't. It's too amorphous.

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@Npars01
I would argue that 1, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9 are all subservient to 2, 3, and 4. The former are just there to achieve the latter


There's this little Chinese restaurant that Katy and I like to order from occasionally. Because this is Canada, the fortune cookies tend to have English and French on them (one language on each side of the paper). They're manufactured in such a way that when I crack them open, I usually see the French side first, which usually isn't a problem.

I'll admit that my French is not as good as my English, but I'm more or less bilingual. This time though, I swear the French side of the fortune was generated by a Markov chain or something. I was actually forced to read the English side to figure out what they were trying to say.

The French side:

Vos yeux délicieux, voire dynamiques, ont fait naître un admirateur mystérieux.

The English side:

Your dynamic eyes have attracted a secret admirer.

Am I just forgetting how to speak French, or is this a really clumsily constructed sentence?


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tesla owners finally complaining about some of the cars' features bc apparently your spouse can watch your car's progress on the app at home and see where you stop. you can even see which seats are being used so "both backseats" suddenly registering on the "heat map" is giving away the cheating lol

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funny how it took cars to tell on cheating for people to realize how dystopian today's tech is

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2004: Wake up sheeple!

2024: Woke as a pejorative.

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in reply to Mx. Luna Corbden

Some people are just like that. They're so desperate to be seen that they contradict themselves.

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Millenials having "little to no loyalty in the workplace" is a sign of *progress*, not concern, you fucking deliberately obtuse coercive capitalist fucks.

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in reply to Hannu Ikonen, MD

I learned the hard way that loyalty to a job is not repaid in kind. Why bother with it?
in reply to Alanna

@kelpana
"You can love the Army all you want, it ain't necessarily gonna love you back," applies to a WHOLE lot of organizations.

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@_L1vY_ @kelpana Never heard "necessarily" in that before. The caveat fits in the former case, too.
in reply to Ralph058 (S/he/it)

@Ralph058 @kelpana It may in fact suit certain people very well. But I sure wouldn't count on it for most!


Content warning: Threads


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The biggest struggle of my artist life is explaining to people that I draw slime girls that are entirely sfw. I think they are underrated in non-porn settings 😁

#SlimeGirls #MastoArt

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How do you stay focused on one thing? (Question in a panel)

No. I embrace my ADHD mind and some of the best ideas and flashes of inspiration come from me doing something else and then thinking "hey, what if I....."

Instead of forcing neurodivergent people to focus on one thing, why don't you build an environment that allows us to play to our strengths. I guarantee you it'll cause less stress and heartache.

#neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

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in reply to Kit Muse

I just read your posts and my brain instantly went to the thing that made my whole week so chaotic. Didn't want to derail your topic. I just wished there was at least a few moments this week in which I would have had a chance to focus on "one" thing. But it is impossible when everything seems to be of equal importance. (context: I'm currently in an onboarding process.)
Anyways, I'd love to learn about your tools!
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One of the things I don't hear talked about enough in the ND community are the two D's Dopamine & Dissonance. If we're doing things that create disonance in our minds, it isn't going to work out, and if we're doing things that don't bring the blessed dopamine, same thing = no go.

I mini detailed my system in another post. My website is down for restructuring, but this is exactly what I want to talk about over at Chicken Yogi & Unscramblet. @morothar





https://shakedown.social/@chopaganda/112139783920694196 chopaganda@shakedown.social - Twitter literally suspended the people who outed the Nazi instead of the Nazi himself. Why? The Nazi asked Elon to suspend them.

And some of you reading this still help to keep Twitter alive. Get the fuck off that shit and don’t look back.

https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2024/03/after-appeal-to-musk-x-suspends-accounts-that-outed-neo-nazi-cartoonist/



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I kinda feel like this whole Threads federating discourse is like a referendum in the #Fediverse.

It's not really, because though who want to federate with Threads will, and those who won't won't - or chose an instance appropriate to their desires. It's the quintessential win-win of the Fediverse.

But some of the arguments thrown around have a vibe of electioneering about them. So in that spirit:

  • Vote federate with Threads! (35%, 58 votes)
  • Vote never-federate with Threads! (64%, 104 votes)
162 voters. Poll end: 2 weeks ago

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in reply to Chris Were 🐧📰🌱☕

I don't even think of Threads unless I see someone bringing it up here. Not something I'm interested in personally. I enjoy the lack of corporate-ness here.

If I were to go in any direction on the Fediverse beyond here it would be toward Pleroma not Threads.


in reply to The Gibson

why don’t Threads users simply get mastodon accounts if they want to to explore the fediverse? What possible value does Threads offer to its users besides lock-in?
in reply to pcbeard

@pcbeard

This is perhaps rhetorical, but:

A) They don't have to figure out how to find and sign up with a Mastodon instance. If they had an Instagram account, a Threads account was automatically created for them.
B) They don't know something better exists.
C) They don't care.

I do not agree with these points, but they're the most likely motivators. I'd known that Mastodon existed for years before the pandemic gave me the free time to actually look into it, so I kinda get it.


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#ZhenHouseZhenBonkwave a #lifestyle show inside #lambdaMOO

https://anonradio.net:8443/anonradio

Hopefully we will be able to go live. Otherwise an extra extra special episode next week.

Otherwise / anyway enjoy @yoniden 's Transmission Received From Galaxy Nine.
https://yoniden.bandcamp.com/album/transmission-received-from-galaxy-nine-nine

Planned topic is discussing what makes a #home . My home in LambdaMOO received a LambdaPost parcel from @me with some wonderful MOO technology inside.

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in reply to screwlisp

It wasn't actually on Lambda 😀 It was over on CyberSphere. I was aware of Lambda.. and maybe had an account to learn on, but it wasn't primary, and I don't recall any of the account info. I do still have an "active" account on cybersphere.
in reply to cinja ♾️

@cinja
I heard of cybersphere in another lifetime, maybe. LambdaMOO is where I am now.
@yoniden @me



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Problem Adding User to Circles under Fennec


!Friendica Support I recently upgraded to the latest version of Friendica. It's fantastic, but I'm having some difficulty adding users to circles from the mobile web interface using Fennec (a Firefox port) on Android. I can navigate to a user's profile, open the sidebar and check or uncheck circles, but it doesn't actually seem to do anything.

I am not having this problem with LibreWolf on Debian.


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To any Threads users who happen to stumble on this post.

Hi!

You are going to see a TON of pushback being here. That's not your fault though. You see, we've all become free of centralized services which make you a product rather then a user. So to some, allowing Meta to federate, is like drinking poison and not expecting it to kill you.

With that said, my hopes is that this will give you the opportunity to see how much better it is to be a USER and not the PRODUCT.

Leave Meta. We have cake.

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My instance admin has chosen not to federate with Threads yet. I applaud his decision. He said it seems better to wait and see. I can't help feel that with Meta there will be some evil turn of events so I don't know if I want them to federate ever.

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When I forget to actually make my point, that’s a stubtoot.

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@eilonwy Last time I tried this I wound up on a Zoom call with the Kremlin


Content warning: Animal Crossing

#acnh


At some point (apparently last December) a new #Friendica version came out and I hadn't noticed. Finally got around to upgrading, and it seems to be running much more smoothly than the previous version.

Also, there's a "channels" feature now? Gonna have to look into what that is.


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No matter what, we will reach Net Zero. Whether that’s emissions or humans remains to be seen.

#climateCrisis #NetZero

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in reply to Aral Balkan

I'm betting on Mother Nature here. Humans probably won't make it long term, but life will continue and evolve into new and creative forms. Whoever is around in a 100 millon years will see...

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Content warning: thoughts on capitalism


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A SEO expert walks into a bar, tavern, pub, grill, public house, irish bar, bartender, drinks, beer, wine, liquor.
in reply to Dgar

Asks if he could have cookies for himself and his 735 friends


TIL that #LambdaMOO doesn't recognize && as having a higher operator precedence than ||. That led to a fun little bug.


What started as a seemingly simple request (adding sake to the menu at my #LambdaMOO sushi bar) has snowballed into me writing a whole drunkenness subsystem.
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe

Still tweaking the parameters a little. The way it was, one glass of sake could get you pretty obnoxiously drunk for a good period of time. I toned it down a bit to something slightly more realistic.


Today while I was out, I saw a guy at a busy intersection holding a handwritten sign. Obviously, I assumed he was panhandling, because people frequently do that there.

As I approached, I saw that his sign only had a URL on it. Out of curiosity, I visited it. Turns out it was some bitcoin mining scam.

While this was definitely a novel marketing approach, I wonder how they figured this particular tactic would instill confidence in anyone...

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There is a concept that some of you might find helpful - "subjective units of distress".

Many years ago, I was struggling badly with my life, going through one mental breakdown after another. I asked my psychiatrist: "How can I live my life if my anxiety goes from 0 to 60 in the matter of seconds?". The psychiatrist said: "But Nina, no one, including you, goes from 0 to 60 instantly. It just feels this way."

So, he explained, human brain is silly and usually cannot tell the difference between not being distressed (SUDS 1) and quite distressed (SUDS 7). As long as we keep functioning, our internal brain state and suffering in it seems to be almost invisible for us.

If I am at SUDS 2, and accidentally spill morning coffee on my blouse, it will probably raise my distress to SUDS 4 or 5, but I will change to a new blouse and go to work.

If I am at SUDS 7 after a doctor's call, and spill coffee on myself, I'll go from being calm to a sobbing mess faster than you can say "therapy".

Keep track of your SUDS!

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in reply to Nina Kalinina

I used to use my own 1-10 scale similar to that. Their 10 is my 9 and my 10 is a panic attack
in reply to Nina Kalinina

I think I pretty much exist in the 6-8 range. 😵‍💫

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I think a lot about how I have to do annual training about not sticking my hand down a co-worker's pants or trying to bribe the cops and how that's because people who earn way more money than me did those things and were shielded by their organisation "increasing training and awareness" and the conclusion is I have to swear annually I won't do something I would never actually do, and people who do those things continue apace.

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Obviously the solution to lecherous executives asking their subordinates what their favourite sex position is, is for me to watch an unskippable video about the revelation that you shouldn't do that.
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I remember working for government - there'd be some revelation that a deputy minister took a week long golf vacation paid by a vendor which then was awarded some big contract. Then the directive would come down from on high that we couldn't let a vendor buy us a cup of coffee.
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