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ADHD (possible AuDHD) experience: seeking input (also long-ish)

A while ago I asked a question of the #ActuallyAutistic and #ADHD communities on my old Fosstodon account and got some pretty good feedback, so now that I'm back in my regular fedi home, I figured I'd do so again (as before, boosts welcome).

I find that when something is stressing me out, I'll obsess over it until I've either solved the problem or it overwhelms me to a point where I need to completely disengage (at least for a time). Often when this happens, loved ones will notice my distress and try to help in the form of asking questions or making suggestions. The problem is that if I'm in problem-solving mode it derails my train of thought, and if I'm in "disengage" mode it prevents me from... well, disengaging.

This frequently results in me responding in ways that are... unpleasant for all persons involved. I've identified this as a problem and am trying to find better ways of handling such situations, but it's easier said than done. Has anyone else experienced this? Are there any good strategies for dealing with it?

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ADHD (possible AuDHD) experience: seeking input (also long-ish)

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I find that when something is stressing me out, I’ll obsess over it until I’ve either solved the problem...


alas, the people i used to call my parents, dont get this AT ALL,

loved ones will notice my distress and try to help


psychopathic narcissistic mother, is my current best-fit theory, in absence of sense of distress in others, absence of concern for dire consequences, absence of introspection and in introspection's place is projecting...

tries to help sounds good... if only it were real and competent and attentive to the real needs, not the imagined one-size-fits-all inconveniences and harms.

even as i was being pushed into deepening burnout and suffering so immensely, i envied gregor samsa's lot, and they still persisted...

This frequently results in me responding in ways that are… unpleasant for all persons involved. I’ve identified this as a problem and am trying to find better ways of handling such situations, but it’s easier said than done. Has anyone else experienced this? Are there any good strategies for dealing with it?


yeah.
orion kelly's vids have been helping me the most with that.
youtube.com/@orionkelly/videos

"... all about validation for people with autism and their loved ones" or however he puts it.



One of my pet peeves: when someone (often an advertiser) says that something is "chemical-free".

What the hell does that even mean?



Me in the morning before my #ADHD meds have kicked in:

Maybe the ninth time I walk into the bathroom I'll remember to put deodorant on.

#ADHD


It rather amazes me the number of people who are suspicious of the pharma industry, who then turn around and put total and absolute faith in the supplement industry.

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a shocking amount of pharmacuticals are essentially just rehashes of naturally cultivated bioactives.
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@know FWIW, I wasn't making the argument that the pharmaceutical industry is trustworthy. 😉
@know
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i tend to resist popular criticism of the supplement industry. supplements are underrated.


Dear hlint:

I value your input, but in this case, I disagree.

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Our local grocery store has a program where you can get a box of assorted discounted produce so long as you're not picky about what's in it. Katy and I had been meaning to try this out for a while, and it's been a pretty good experience so far. We're both creatures of habit, especially where food is concerned, and finding new recipes to figure out how to use the stuff we normally don't have has been rather enjoyable on the whole.

If keeping your grocery bill low is something you're trying to do, I recommend seeing if your local grocer has such a program.

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@Judy Anderson My bigest gripe was that I'm sure their app is collecting all kinds of data on me behind my back (Flash Food in this case).


So all the posts I've missed over the past four days during the outage are starting to pour in now. So far the new machine's handling the influx of traffic like a champ. The old one would be really struggling right now.

I am happy about this.




Hooray! I finally got the last of the systems I depend on daily back up and running.

Perhaps something I should consider is a contingency plan for the (hopefully very distant) next time my server fails.



Outage Recovery


The machine that this node was running on failed on 2 Jul 2024. A new machine has been acquired and a restore from backup was performed. It'll probably take a couple days for the database to settle as it re-synchronizes with the rest of the network.

Edit: grammar (proofreading fail)

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I have a cheap multimeter because I do not require one frequently enough to invest in a decent one. I noticed something interesting though: there are a lot of seemingly metallic things in my apartment that are surprisingly good insulators? (e.g.: a (brass?) doorknob)

I thought the multimeter was the problem, but when I measure something like a wire, it seems to be okay. Is this normal?

I'll have to check if I have any spare resistors with known values laying around to better test the meter.

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This is why gold is used in electronics so much. Copper may be a much better conductor than gold, but copper has surface oxidation that can get bad, while a thin plating of gold is... golden!

Aluminum oxidizes within seconds after scraping a fresh layer and why it's so difficult to work with














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