When a #neurodivergent person tells you about how something is difficult for them, rather than thinking of them as whiny, consider that this probably means they have a certain level of trust in you to drop their mask enough to do so.
Invalidating that struggle is likely also a pretty effective way of eroding that trust.
#ActuallyADHD
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Just learned that they're shutting the power off tomorrow for 4-5 hours.
That's gonna suck.
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I just put a call to eval in my code and I feel dirty now.
The context went something like this:
(eval (cons 'concat (my-function arg1 arg2)))I had initially hoped to use
(concat . (my-function arg1 arg2))...but this resulted in a call to
(concat my-function arg1 arg2)Which was not what I expected.
Is there a better way I could've written this?
#emacs #lisp #elisp
Edit: Got my answer. I wanted:
(apply 'concat (my-func arg1 arg2))Edit 2:
It turns out the code I really wanted was:
(string-join arg2 arg1)I love reinventing the wheel because I didn't know it was already there.
Edit 3:
Here's the actual code:
(defun lambdamoo-run-text-replacements (str)
"Perform text replacements on the string"
(dolist (vals lambdamoo-text-replacements)
(let* ((from (car vals))
(to (cdr vals))
(split (split-string str from)))
(setq str (string-join split to))))
str)Let's see if there's anything else I've reinvented here.
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@Simon Brooke What I was looking to do was to call concat with the list returned by (my-function arg1 arg2) used as arguments.
As it turns out, all the functionality I was looking for was already supplied by the string-join function. I just didn't know it existed.
(catch :abort
;; do something
(when condition
(message "A bad thing happened")
(throw :abort nil))
;; do something else
)When the functionality I really wanted was:
(progn
;; do something
(when condition
(user-error "A bad thing happened"))
;; do something else
)I knew the former felt sketchy, but I couldn't think of a better way to do it until just now.
#emacs #lisp
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As a Schemer (and formerly/sometimes still Objective-C), everything is pretty verbose, and my own functions even more so, so I can search by function name knowing the type and parameters. (vector-index vec searchfunc), (draw-rect-with-edge-color rect edge-width color), etc.
There's no excuse for hardcore Lisp functions like (wadsf w q) "wander down stack frames for word query" (fictional but not unlikely).
#lisp
#Elisp logic:
All interned symbols can be found in a lookup table. This table is bound to the obarray symbol.
Hang on a minute...
I can only assume that the underlying C code has its own pointer to this table and the obarray symbol is only provided as a convenience for elisp functions that can't see this pointer?
#emacs #lisp
No no, the obarray you see from elisp is the same one used by the reader. Elisp is an old-style Lisp here, and the obarray is a first-class thing: you can make a new one, rebind obarray, etc.
That's the sort of thing people don't do much anymore, but used to do. The documentation covers it reasonably well gnu.org/software/emacs/manual/โฆ
I'm starting to get the impression that my doctor's office is trying to drum up business by giving me repeated heart attacks with vague voicemails about some test results I'm waiting on.
For the record, according to the information I have at this very moment, everything is (probably) fine.
I'm a little self-conscious about it as non-trivial is relative, but...
(defmacro lambdamoo-chatter-interact
(func-name to msg docstring fmtstr &rest vals)
"Define a function for interacting with another player"
(let ((proc (gensym))
(str (gensym)))
`(defun ,func-name (,proc ,str)
,docstring
(let ((,to lambdamoo-chatter)
(,msg (substring-no-properties (lambdamoo-command-text ,str))))
(if ,to
(funcall lambdamoo-send-line ,proc
(format ,fmtstr . ,vals))
(message "No chatter specified"))))))
That's awesome. I need to hear my own advice, of course, but don't be inhibited to share something that isn't finished. It's the Fediverse! We're all anarchists! The kind sort, I mean.
Lisp macros are just so powerful.
Wait, how do you get the awesome code formatting? Anybody know how to configure this on fediscience.org?
AM I GOING TO HAVE TO SPIN UP MY OWN INSTANCE AGAIN
@James Endres Howell Frendica has a markdown add-on.
I just typed:
```lisp
...code...
```Typing that however was trickier.
RIP Sterrance (my #sourdough starter) who met a tragic end in his glass jar at the hands of gravity and the kitchen floor.
Also, happy birthday to Stella who is going to take a bunch of work to make into another viable starter.
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@screwlisp @Judy Anderson
I've been looking to migrate more of my workflow into emacs, in this particular case I'm looking to moo via emacs which I believe you both do?
I believe @screwlisp has mentioned using rmoo, but the only repo I found for that hasn't been updated in over a decade. Is there something more recent I'm not aware of?
> had do a little finessing to get it to installed
out of curiosity: what was the problem?
Is it that I didn't make a (M)ELPA package out of it? (nobody just drops things in their ./emacs directory anymore?)
or some other issue?
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M-x package-install-file, it didn't like that the file didn't end with:;;; mud-mcp.el ends hereI just had to add that and it was all good.
ok, so the answer is indeed
"nobody just drops things in their ./emacs directory anymore"
(really, that's all it's supposed to be.
well okay, that plus
M-x load-library mud-mcp
which is the old-school way of doing things)
(wRog needs to learn MELPA. Film at 11.)
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@Roger Crewโ โโ๐ธโโโโ @Judy Anderson @screwlisp It essentially already was a valid ELPA package with the mentioned exception.
I'm currently in the process of adding my own custonizations. I've added a rudimebtary shim that processes lines entered bu the user so that it can support commands that get processed on the client side.
Here's an excerpt:
(require 'mud-mcp)
(defun lambdamoo ()
"Connect to LambdaMOO"
(interactive)
(mud-mcp-connect "LambdaMOO" "lambda.moo.mud.org" 8888)
(setq lambdamoo-send-line comint-input-sender
comint-input-sender #'lambdamoo-process-line))
(defconst lambdamoo-commands
'(("send" . lambdamoo-send)
("test" . lambdamoo-test))
"Command functions")
(defvar lambdamoo-send-line nil
"The function that is called to send a line to the server")
(defun lambdamoo-process-line (proc str)
"Process input sent by the user"
(if (string-prefix-p "/" str)
(lambdamoo-process-command proc str)
(funcall lambdamoo-send-line proc str)))
(defun lambdamoo-process-command (proc str)
"Process a command"
(let* ((words (split-string str))
(command (string-trim-left (car words) "/"))
(found (assoc (downcase command)
lambdamoo-commands
#'string=))
(func (and found (cdr found))))
(if func
(funcall func proc str)
(message "Command '%s' not found." command))))After I wrote all this, I found comments in the file detailing how to add functionality.
Is there a more "proper" way I could've done this?
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I am dangerously close to unleashing my first #emacs package on the public. It's nothing fancy and still relatively niche, but I deem it potentially useful enough to be worth publishing.
There are a couple small features I want to add and a few things that still need some polish, but it's almost ready for a version 0.1 release.
It's not anything ground breaking or anything. I'm still pretty much an #elisp novice, but I'm proud of it anyway.
More details when it's released.
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@รlvaro R. At this point all I need to add is a README and two features (which will mostly reuse code I've already written just in a slightly different way).
Surprisingly enough, the hardest part of the whole project was getting it to display numbers with thousands separators. That code might exist in the bowels of the calc package, but it was easier to just roll my own.
Okay, my first #Emacs package is officially released. It was strongly inspired by @Soroban Exam Website's work, providing practice tools for the #soroban. This is the first Emacs package I've ever released. It's probably not perfect, but I welcome feedback on how it can be improved.
I wonder if there is an overlap of more than say five people who are both soroban and emacs users. ๐
Anyhow, it can be found at: codeberg.org/jlamothe/soroban
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vim guy here. happy to see I inspire others...
May be you could post on our forum. Not sure you will get more users, though
@Soroban Exam Website Might as well. I wrote it mainly for myself, partly because I don't own a printer and this makes it easier to practice when working from a computer screen, but also just to see if I could.
Still, if someone else is going to find it useful, that's probably the place I'll find them.
May be you didn't see you that you can generate an interactive HTML output, on the site.
That was designed for people who don't want to print.
Should I make it more visible?
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Well, everything's mostly set up. Cable management needs some definite work, but at least the layout of my desk is more or less unchanged.
The new arrangement makes more logistical sense, but will require some getting used to. Just about every room in the apartment's been rearranged.
format to use a thousands separator? That'd be nifty, but it doesn't look like there is a way.
Katy's been down a YouTube rabbit hole on $medical_condition lately. Today we watched a yoga video that purported to relieve one of the symptoms. Cool cool, yoga can have benefits. Let's give it a go. Some of the instructions in this video were oddly specific but whatever, that's fine. Then we read the comments and my cult alarm started blaring.
This was a video with millions of views and an untold number of comments. Some of them were downright scary in their praise for this guy* and there wasn't a single remotely negative comment to be found.
Not one. I looked.
Someone is really dedicated to sliencing dissent on this video, and I can't imagine that being anything shy of a full-time job. That is probably one of the most massive red flags there is.
* e.g.: "Who needs western medicine? $youtuber is always the answer."
They told me no spicy foods until tomorrow, but the curry in my fridge is beckoning...
It's not that spicy. Should I?
I probably shouldn't, right?
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while the recursive name certainly helps, pizza developers use proprietary ingredients while mac and cheese development is fully free. The source code is in the name!
Although you could argue that Kraft Dinner is proprietary, but that's like a proprietary version of UNIX. People just go to it for nostalgia knowing it's way outdated, and any attempt to replicate it will give a better result.
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Taking my first dose of one of the drugs I was instructed to take before my procedure tomorrow.
How am I supposed to take this again?
*reads prescription label*
"Take as directed"
Thanks. ๐
So the procedire in question is a colonoscopy. In addition to the diet they've also prescribed laxatives. I just took the first dose a short while ago. Apparently these things work fast.
It's going to be an interesting night.
The original keyboards used long ago had Ctrl, Super, Hyper, Meta, and ALT keys. We now map Meta (i.e. ESC) to the Alt key on our keyboards as a convenience. I do not believe there is a way, on modern keyboards, to have both META and ALT mapped to a key. We can have Super, and Meta. I can't recall if I was able to map Hyper on a modern keyboard.
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I've been playing around with keymaps. Apparently they can be used to create menus that give the user a visual list of options. The canonical way to make them is aparently with make-sparse-keymap to create the menu and define-key to add options to it, but this causes some confusing behaviour.
Take the following example:
(let ((menu (make-sparse-keymap "My menu")))
(define-key menu "a"
'(menu-item "Foo" foo))
(define-key menu "b"
'(menu-item "Bar" bar))
menu)Yields the following:
(keymap (98 menu-item "Bar" bar) (97 menu-item "Foo" foo) "My menu")Each new entry is added to the top of the list, so when the menu is displayed, they're listed in reverse order. This is very counter intuitive.
Now, I understand that the nature of lists in lisp make inserting an element at the top of the list less computationally expensive, but when you've already got to walk the whole list anyway to ensure the key binding isn't already present, this no longer feels like an adequate excuse.
Am I missing something?
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Define key is my least favorite way to make a keymap.
I like defvar-keymap, bind-keys, if you've got a map create already. Like a sparce map.
General is nice too. But then you have to have that installed.
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C-z suspends Emacs and drops me back to the terminal until I issue the fg command to bring it back. I use this for issuing git commands. I could probably do this from within Emacs, but I haven't bothered to figure it out.
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@Zenie That's an option, but my concern is that the reason they might be vague in the docs is because the specific error might change in future versions.
Perhaps I'm just being overly paranoid.
Usually errors are obvious and for very specific reasons. You can just catch them and print the message so if anything does change you will know.
I don't think it's worth worrying about.
I've long known that certain ASCII control sequences could be mimicked by holding control and pressing a key, e.g.: backspace is CTRL-H, newline is CTRL-J, but I was today years old when I learned that the ASCII control code is just the ASCII value of the key being pressed along with control bitwise and-ed with 0x1f.
It feels weird that I hadn't caught onto this sooner.
Welp, it looks like our Instacart account is probably cooked. We need to find a replacement for that income quickly.
Fortunately, we were already in the process of trying to do that because of the wear and tear it was putting on the car. I have a few irons in the fire, but nothing concrete yet. We need something we can do on an on-demand basis so that we can work when our mental health permits.
I'm notoriously bad at interviewing for jobs. It always involves some element of exaggerating the truth (a.k.a. lying) which I suck at. It turns out for instance that the honest answer to "why do you want to work here?" (so I don't starve and end up homeless) isn't a good answer. ๐
Looks like we've officially been fired from Instacart. It was the customer's word against ours. In the long run, this is probably a good thing as it was slowly killing our car with all the mileage it was putting on it. It was never meant to be a permanent solution anyway.
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My partner has been dealing with $condition for a very long time. In that time we have tried many therapies and medications without much success. We have found $medication_a which actually helps, but causes $side_effect which is not sustainable. Fortunately, we've found $medication_b which makes $side_effect tolerable.
She's been on a waiting list to see a specialist for a while and finally had her first appointment today. After a single 30 minute appointment, his solution was to increase $medication_a while completely stopping $medication_b. When she objected about $side_effect (which she'd already told him was the reason for $medication_b) he said to just do $obvious_thing as though we hadn't tried that already.
What's worse is that he faxed the order to our pharmacy canceling her previous prescriptions.
Of course, I am not a doctor but what the hell is this guy thinking??
I think I've been able to pin down what it is that I like about #Emacs so much. When I first started using computers, I was using a TRS-80. If you didn't have a cartridge inserted, It'd boot directly into BASIC where you could program the machine directly. That wasn't a bug, it was a feature.
Modern computing seems to do its best to hide all that stuff away. Everything is treated more like a simple (albeit specialized) appliance, not a powerful machine that can be made to do literally anything you want. Instead, it's about what the various software vendors want it to do.
Emacs by contrast not only gives you all the tools you need to modify it in any way you want, but actively encourages you to do so. It feels a lot more like the computing systems of old. Perhaps that's not for everyone. There's a reason computers were so niche back in the early days. Most people just didn't care to learn what was going on under the hood, and that's valid. There's something to be said for a tool that just works effortlessly out of the box. Also, to be clear, you don't strictly speaking need to dig into the internals to use Emacs, but I prefer for my technology to serve me, and I'm willing to put the effort in to make that happen.
That's why it's a good fit for me.
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itโs so exhausting, you choose your words correctly and they ignore them and insert their โinterpretation,โ instead. Itโs like talking to the cat. ๐
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Energetic Nova
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I struggle with word interpretation. And you definitely get looked at as bad when you dont follow implicit rules.
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It's more profitable for them to "interpret" (distort) than to try to understand. Becomes habit, they do it to each other without thinking. Discard the words and keep their twisted idea of what they meant.
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if it wasn't all of them, you'd call it debilitating paranoia ๐
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I wonder if it comes from reading strategies teachers teach in fiction that causes thatโฆ
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Context clues specifically. I realized it might not be obvious what im thinking about.
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I want to use the R-word for the shock value, I want to say, Watch for my next blog, "R-worded by Violence," and I'm serious about it. It should be paranoia, but the same type that's paranoid really is dangerous to everybody, so it's complicated, but that's how I would like to classify them, disabled by their "strength."
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Frequent enough to show a pattern. (I try to not fall into "Us vs. Them" language with my psych, goes without saying.)
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issues with misinterpretation? i was way on the autistic side and my ex was wayyyy on the adhd side and they *always* misinterpreted everything i said, even after multiple conversations that i mean what i say
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gawd, I don't know, I only hatched as Autistic a few years ago . . .
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I've been thinking of Autism and Allism, NTness as opposites, I think I've heard something about people otherwise ND but still Allistic, still not Autistic
.
I suppose there could be both sorts, all combinations
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that's all I got, I hope someone has better ๐
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Used to misinterpret often until my twenties but got better at reading people (normies mostly, really). Misinterpretation was an entirely different pattern from the NT one, though.
(Still w/o formal diagnosis here. Personal certainty at 80% for ADHD, > 50% por autism; other things not at all clear but comorbidities are common; late-blooming trans, FWIW, and there are correlations with that.)
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I'm self assessed, and I'm quite sure about Autism, but I'm starting to consider ADHD. I hadn't, because I'm not hyper, my sibling was the hyper one, but I'm starting to be open to it.
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Same. Never could decide if it was closer to an ADHD or autistic trait. See? There's the overlap again.
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@angelastella @punishmenthurts @autistics living with someone w undiagnosed adhd for over a decade has 100% allowed me to discern that i definitely absolutely do not have any features of adhd.
the amount of chaos that a person w adhd has to live with to function has allowed me to definitively learn that i never ever ever ever want to have any sort of relationship with an adhd'er again.
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yeah, I had one high energy older sibling ๐ฌ
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Has to live? Hmm. Confirmation that we ADHD fuckers are widely different from each other. I must tolerate my chaos because I cannot control or reduce it, but it hurts me a lot. I lived in ordered environments and didn't become nonfunctional. Autistic need for certain stimuli notwithstanding.
Not defending or justifying anything, just illustrating the AuDHD spectrum.
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Never did really calibrate my personal requirement of these inputs. I think I can manage with sort of an internal generator of novelty, variation, distraction or whatever it is.
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down (and fall asleep amazingly)
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AFAICT that interaction does not usually happen, and I have sensory processing issues that cause me to... malfunction. (Had something close to a meltdown last month during a very noisy, chaotic meeting at a place that had become dark. Not getting visual cues as to who was speaking was the last straw for me.)
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I put myself to sleep like that once, when an acid trip went scary, an emergency shutdown button is handy sometimes
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Now that you mention it, that is what happens to me when I smoke weed above a certain dose. If I remove myself from social stimuli, I fall asleep like a baby. Way easier and cleaner than with alcohol.
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I need weed for sleep, but also to be awake.
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that experience was almost fifty years ago, I thought I was having some real brain event, I wasnโt sure I was going to wake up
as myself, I couldnโt think two words together, thought I was, uh, fragmented. ๐ฌ
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Happily woke up OK. ๐
I mean, thatโs my opinion, LOL.
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@angelastella @punishmenthurts @autistics stuff like that happens to me a lot where things bother me but seemingly do not bother other people. then i start spiraling and panicking because i dont understand why it bothers me and no one else. then i end up feeling guilty because it bothers me. then i start having a meltdown because im feeling insane about the whole situation.
the autistic shame cycle strikes again!
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"What's wrong with these people?" Yeah, I know.
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@angelastella @autistics @punishmenthurts i would not be surprised if the dsm combined it all under neurodivergence in the next version *but* i still believe that adhd and autism is far less related than what people actually want it to be.
one good point, autistic people are bottom up thinkers on the whole while people with adhd can be either top down or bottom up. you already have a significant difference in thought processing that can lead to multiple misinterpretations and other issues that cause interpersonal strife.
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Hmm, definitely bottom-up at heart. Learned top-down later and fragmentarily. And yes, it is at the root of miscommunication a lot of the time, even between NTs.
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I want them to find out more on the testing thingโฆ I want to know my categories more specificallyโฆ felt like I got diagnosed with everything.
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I also kinda like the PDA label and the NVLD things cause they feel closer? But they arent in there. I really want presentation styles. Its kinda annoying cause I think my presentation though recognizably autistic to other autisticsโฆ is very presentation different. My friends describe me as masklessโฆ
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Hell, I really wasn't up to speed with these. Still learning at close to 50 because they cut us off from each other. (No, I'm not bitter, what an idea.)
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"I got mine, fuck you" is the rough version of that.
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I find that so, so frustrating.
When I speak, the message is in the fucking words. Not the microcues. Not the body language. Not the tone. I'm verbal.
And yes, it's pretty useless around neurotypicals.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •.
the very stuff we have to listen to them bragging about in school, how smart humans are to have spoken language!
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Drives ya nuts. ๐ ๐
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @Uair @emily_rugburn @autistics
Yeah, humans. Don't you know that we mutants don't really belong to the species?
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •.
it was surely true at some point, we do have spoken language, but itโs one of those sci-fi stories where theyโve forgotten how it works ๐๐
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glory days ๐
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
My theory is that we evolved as a second locus of power in a tribal society. You had the leader, who maintained power through charm and violence. And you had the gender-queer medicine person who was respected as a thinker. When the leader was about to lemming the tribe off a cliff, the medicine person would intervene. And the leader knew to back down.
Just my $0.02
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Agnostic about that hypothesis (actually, fuck me if I know how to get evidence for or against it) but sounds entirely plausible.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
I just make shit up, but I'm pretty good at it.
I've been doing my own thinking all my life. I've got a head full of state secrets, and nobody ever told 'em to me. I never signed no NDA. I just figured that shit out on my own.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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it doesn't necessarily fit in my system, where we were here first. And so far, it seems their type show up in charge, not taking advice from anyone, but
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if that scenario ever happened, warrior king with an Autistic prime minister or consigliere, it would suggest that when the warriors showed up, some of us foolishly thought we could keep them and use them
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and I was fantasizing that the Neolithic people understood at least breeding if not evolution, and would know not to do that
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๐ฒ ๐
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts
We end up with allists in power because the ones willing to hurt others in the pursuit of power usually aren't autistic.
None of the autists I know show the slightest draw to power. The most I can say is that we're driven to find influence by a sense of injustice.
An autist will (in my limited experience) gladly give up a position of power (e.g. give a patent away or give up copyright) if it benefits the world.
@Uair @angelastella @emily_rugburn @me @autistics
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It's a common trait among autistics that we won't lift a finger to defend ourselves, but get ferociously defensive of people we care about.
I've never gotten in a fight, I've never punched someone who wasn't willing, and I've come close to killing five men for threatening people i cared about.
Woulda got 'em, too. The only reason they're still alive is that I checked myself. It's not who I want to be.
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @Mux @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Fuck me, so that's an informal diagnostic criterion for autism too?
I've upped my estimate again. Will ask about getting evaluated soon.
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NoBorg
in reply to Mux2000 (extra-solar) • • •@Mux @punishmenthurts @Uair @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
Isn't Elon Musk autistic? I believed I read he revealed it himself.
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to NoBorg • • •Don't know, don't care. I'm speaking in generalities anyway. Even if he is, exceptions are to be expected. One autistic trait he definitely does not exhibit is a strong sense of justice.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to NoBorg • • •@hadon @Mux @punishmenthurts @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
I'm inclined to believe it because he's such a shitty liar.
Selling a lie is a skill we tend not to possess.
But there's a distinct possibility he's just using that as an excuse for being a fucking asshole.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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yeah. If I had to pick, I say heโs Allistic, but if not, whatโs the difference?
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Does that make being a billionaire Nazi an Autistic trait? If he pursues severely Allistic goals with all of his resources, does it matter if heโs masking, only pretending to be that?
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I mean, this is personal, I have exactly this going with my ex family, they never loved me because Iโm a weirdo, it was always obvious that my in laws strove to be seen as normal
and to be popular, itโs what they live for, but after they disposed of me for imaginary Allistic crimes, now they are all self diagnosed Autistics, and whatโs the difference to me?
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I mean, I hope Iโm the last Autistic these heavily masking Autistics destroy.
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A few famous people masking doesnโt mean itโs not a hyper Allistic thing to be what he is. People mask, people donโt know, one name means nothing.
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •Goiterzan, my question was mainly in response to Mux2000: "We end up with allists in power because the ones willing to hurt others in the pursuit of power usually aren't autistic. "
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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and I agree with Mux, usually thatโs the case, aggression is more of an Allistic trait than an ND trait, I have written whole books and many blogs and a thousand toots saying that.
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Iโm saying it would be less usual for an Autistic to want that much power, but it surely happens sometimes. And again, weโre talking about types and big data, one dude doesnโt prove anything or mean anything.
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @Uair @Mux @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
I don't know if there are scientific studies on the subject.
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @Uair @Mux @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
I was just wondering because Musk has hurt a lot of people and he said he was autistic. So, we have to watch out for prejudgements and don't assume that only a certain type of person can get to high power positions or hurt others.
We all are human, autistic or not; we all are capable of good and bad :/
Nobody is better or worst than others, we are just different.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to NoBorg • • •@hadon @punishmenthurts @Mux @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
I think we have more range than neurotypicals. When we're good, we're awesome. But when we turn to the dark side, we can be some of the most evil motherfuckers out there.
My grandfather was.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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what we all CAN do or COULD do means nothing, it doesnโt discriminate, it is the absence of information, it means nothing. Real Allistics hurt way more people than real Autistics, and that any one of them COULD go the other direction means nothing, and do you prefer things that mean nothing? You want to correct me so nothing means anything for me?
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @Uair @Mux @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
No, I don't want to correct you, I'm just reflecting out loud. And I wondered if there were scientific studies on the subject because I think science is more accurate than our individual perceptions.
If there are no scientific studies on the subject I would always question my own perceptions and conclusions.
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in reply to NoBorg • • •as far as I know there arenโt any. Maybe they call the ND pathologically nonviolent, maybe they study that. ๐
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •This sent me down a Google Scholar rabbit hole from which I emerged with the following conclusion - the current state of research on the intersection between autism and social values, such as control, violence and the will to power is shit.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to Mux2000 (extra-solar) • • •@Mux @punishmenthurts @hadon @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
They just started seriously looking into autism ten years ago. These things take time.
Not to mention the fact that they didn't actually ask the autistic people until a couple years ago.
Ever hear of ABA? It was invented by the same prick who invented conversion therapy. I just watched "Three Kings" and the torture scene is brutal, where they loop the wires over his ears and electrocute him. Mark Wahlberg is a hell of an actor. I'm glad he didn't break his teeth making that shot.
I've seen a picture of an about five year old girl with those same wires over her ears, and her face contorted in a rictus of pain. That's ABA. Torture kids into hiding who they are.
And it was industry-standard treatment for autism until fairly recently.
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in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •sounds awful! :/
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to NoBorg • • •It is. Should be illegal but here we are. Year or two ago some of us had to report the hell out of an account promoting ABA. To their credit, the mods at mastodon.social threw them out within the day.
(Of course we used the word "torture" in our reports.)
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Energetic Nova
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @hadon @Uair @Mux @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Because I have PDAโฆ I have some diff feelingsโฆ since my autism causes health issuesโฆ
Im in a space of willing to try anything. CBT/DBT failed. The focus on mindfulness, the part of both of those that made it fail makes me know ACT also wont work. Anything focusing on thought control is a failure. I really need something else. Its so stupid how I canโt find something to actually help me gain a rudder.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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These are totally Allistic arguments youโre giving us, N. Like we donโt exist, like there arenโt types.
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to sonja • • •90% of everything is shit, and sadly that includes autistic people.
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in reply to Mux2000 (extra-solar) • • •@Mux @emily_rugburn @Uair @hadon @punishmenthurts @autistics
As long as we're trading made-up statistics (and make no mistake, I respected the hell out of Ted Sturgeon), I'm partial to the one which says that 10% of people are assholes and crooks, 10% are--for all practical purposes--saints, and the remaining 80% can be convinced to swing in either way. Which means: how we organize society means something. Also (partially) explains how a well-run campaign can make fascism come back almost everywhere.
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in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @Mux @emily_rugburn @hadon @punishmenthurts @autistics
I think this is a brilliant analysis.
I feel the same way about sexuality. 10% are straight. 10% are gay. And the 80% are bi, but leaning in different directions.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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So 10% godโs fool Autistics, 80% Allistic, and 10% hyper Allistic?
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in reply to sonja • • •@emily_rugburn @hadon @Mux @punishmenthurts @angelastella @autistics
I use it as an excuse for doing good in a shitty world.
My grandfather was a monster. My family is shit. I'm still the teenage rebel flipping them the finger. And in my case, it was the right call. It was the moral decision.
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people believe its malicious and sociopathic
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Poloniosmonk, you can get away from your grandfather, you can get away from your family, but you can't get away from yourself. You're stuck having to live with yourself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week! So, you better make of him a great person to share life with ;)
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Miakoda
in reply to Miakoda • • •@Mux @punishmenthurts @Uair @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics ...if I had that power, I'd strongly prefer nobody knew it was me. I don't need nor want my name on that stuff, I just want people to be ok. Seeing people happy and safe would be all I want out of it.
This topic makes me tear up. We have all the resources for everyone to be ok, and we, as a species, just don't do it for some reason.
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I fantasize about handing out Xmas cards in the Walmart parking lot with hundred dollar bills in them to obviously struggling parents.
I never aimed so high as to think about being a billionaire, but jesus fuckme christ. I'd give 999 million away as soon as possible.
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student loans....
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
in reply to sonja • • •itโs probably against the law ๐ ๐
to give it all away
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in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @Uair @arisummerland @hellomiakoda @Mux @autistics
If it's not, they will find a way to make it illegal. It's not about the money. It's about power.
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in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @arisummerland @hellomiakoda @Mux @autistics
Naaah, things are changing here. Biden pardoned a shit-ton of student debt. And the Trump-backlash era, which is coming, will be ferociously progressive.
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @arisummerland @hellomiakoda @Mux @autistics
Let's hope so. Trump et al are making an unholy amount of damage.
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in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @arisummerland @hellomiakoda @Mux @autistics
Oh, yeah. They're utterly destroying my country. It will take generations to fix this.
But I think they're also creating generations who will fix this.
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in reply to Miakoda • • •@hellomiakoda @angelastella @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @arisummerland @Mux @autistics
Yeah, me neither. But the next generation will grow up in a better world than we did.
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •No good deed goes unpunished
@emily_rugburn @Uair @arisummerland @hellomiakoda @angelastella @me @autistics
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Miakoda • • •@hellomiakoda @Mux @punishmenthurts @Uair @emily_rugburn @autistics
One thing is the desire to do things like these, and quite another the drive to rule over others, even to achieve these goals. Making tools out of my fellow humans it's not something I'm skilled to do. Let them find their own way, I have quite enough bossing myself.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @hellomiakoda @Mux @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Plus, I'm fucking lazy. Doing other people's thinking for them is too much fucking work.
Learn to do it yourselves.
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in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @hellomiakoda @Mux @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Yes, this. It's not that hard, the longest part is learning to detect when you're fooling yourself and correcting it.
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in reply to Miakoda • • •@hellomiakoda @Mux @punishmenthurts @angelastella @emily_rugburn @autistics
I honestly wouldn't even want it. I know my limitations.
And I've got a Kissingerian understanding of power. I could do good with it. It's just not my game.
I'd rather make people laugh. that's harder, y'know. Comedy is the most difficult of the verbal arts.
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Sir Vyver ๐จ๐ฆ๐ง๐ง๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ฌ๐ฑ
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •You sure you're not AI?
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in reply to Sir Vyver ๐จ๐ฆ๐ง๐ง๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ฌ๐ฑ • • •@bardmoss @Uair @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Of all the tasteless, lazy jokes I've read this year, yours certainly is one.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •.
thank you, I didnโt get it was a joke until you said so, now Iโm laughing.
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At least Polonius doesnโt need a whole nuclear power plant to make him go ๐
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
And don't you dare have a glitch in your lexical-semantic network and substitute a word for another. They will use that against you instantly and no correction will get things back on track.
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Of course, NTs play these stupid status and domination games all the time and they won't ever believe we don't have either the skill or the inclination for that.
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in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •@angelastella @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
I've got nothing. I don't have a job, I only have 2 people in my life and one is pretty nonverbally autistic, and I'm broke as a joke. I don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out.
And I /still/ have better things to do with my time than play those stupid status games. Those are for punks who don't have it. If you really do, you don't give a shit.
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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thatโs a tough one for me, I love the perfect word, even if no-one knows it and itโs as long as your arm. ๐ณ๐
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What helps keep me grounded is I know the fancier the words are, itโs often a sign of bullshit, so I try to make myself say things in plain language, if it canโt be said plainly, itโs probably not true enough.
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รngela Stella Matutina
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Fuck yes. Cursing keeps your brain clean as a motherfucking whistle.
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fuckinโ eh ๐
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itโs another layer of complexity, a scale of finely tuned emphasis
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to sonja • • •@emily_rugburn @angelastella @punishmenthurts @autistics
I just got fucked by that. I asked someone if a bill had to be paid up front or could be paid in arrears. Afterward, I figured out he didn't know what "in arrears" meant. He just lied to me instead.
I blame the schools. They teach you to never admit you don't know something and always try to bullshit your way through it.
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
Cheating bastard. And yes, schools teach hypocrisy, manipulation and pathological indifference to your fellow human's suffering.
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to รngela Stella Matutina • • •And that's not by accident.
@Uair @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @me @autistics
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Mux2000 (extra-solar) • • •@Mux @Uair @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
No. It's clearly by design. Cold, calculating will to keep us divided, distrustful of each other and unable to cooperate selflessly.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to Mux2000 (extra-solar) • • •@Mux @angelastella @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
You might like John Taylor Gatto:
dn710202.ca.archive.org/0/itemโฆ
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair
Thank you, but I don't believe I have the spoons to read long texts (I'll try to find it in audio form).
My own experience of school, and what I've learned about them since, present a solid case against them in any case.
Fucking child prisons.
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to Mux2000 (extra-solar) • • •@Mux @angelastella @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
Prisons for the crime of adolescence.
Both of my gene donors worked in high schools. That was my dad's line.
You might want to hold onto that until you have the spoons. He was teacher of the year for New York City twice and New York State once. He knows of what he writes.
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Mux2000 (extra-solar)
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •Gave it a listen. He's correct, of course, but it's nothing I didn't already know. Funny how he mentions that schools were a Prussian institute, but not that the Prussians were inspired by the methods brahmins used to maintain the Indian caste system...
@angelastella @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @me @autistics
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sonja
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old is this shit?
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to sonja • • •@emily_rugburn
90s? early naughts?
Harper's is legit, tho. They never jumped the shark.
sonja
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@Uair i mean, margaret mead was totally debunked and it physically *pains* me to see anyone praising her.
its like calling margaret sanger the forerunner for women's rights but completely neglecting the whole eugenics thing. blech.
Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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I thought it was . . . Chagnon that everybody hated. I can't remember, what was Meade's deaL?
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Poloniousmonk
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That's fucking hilarious. Thanks for sharing.
Although, I really don't remember a "shocked" tone. I remember it as respectful. But this was 35 years ago and I was a dipshit kid. I'm not gonna reread it now. I have better things to do with my time.
sonja
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lobotomy.might actually make me smrtrrr
Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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it's what I call Allistic science. They're good at physics and stuff, but they have a disability regarding the study of humans, they have the mythical, Human Nature sitting where a whole lot of science would be most helpful. The Davids said it gently and only once in #TheDawnOfEverything , that the Turtle Islanders found the Euro invaders to lack the "actuarial," sense, that they do not see how their treatment of one another affects society and their lives, they lack a functioning naรฏve psychology.
Douglas Edwards
in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @Uair This is part of what I mean by saying that the #mindblindness / "theory of mind deficit" idea almost has it backwards. While #allistics do have a theory of mind, they typically let it atrophy from neglect, habitually using the automatic, intuitive mechanisms built into their #EnvironmentalYoke instead of doing any explicit theorizing. That approach may be great if all you're interested in is jockeying for position in a social hierarchy. It's not so great if you'd like to understand what kind of world your actions are building.
@autistics
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รngela Stella Matutina
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @Mux @emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
Hey, thank you. Back in the day I translated "The Six-Lesson Schoolteacher" for my family and friends. This essay looks like a good companion to it. I don't know which of his books I read because they were re-titled: one was something like Compulsory Miseducation. Decades ago, my now adult kids were babies.
The Six-Lesson Schoolteacher, by John Taylor Gatto
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Energetic Nova
in reply to Poloniousmonk • • •@Uair @emily_rugburn @angelastella @punishmenthurts @autistics
I hate the bullshit your way through it advice!
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Poloniousmonk
in reply to Energetic Nova • • •@Energetic_Nova @emily_rugburn @angelastella @punishmenthurts @autistics
The medium is the message.
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NoBorg
in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Language is so ambiguous, words can have different meanings, even sentences. That's why sometimes we need further clarification.
Think about it:
"He's hot" ( mmm... he's cute? he's mad? or is it the weather? are we actually talking about temperature? ) ;)
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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rubbish. It can be, when people want it to be, and a certain sort always wants it to be.
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NoBorg
in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •@punishmenthurts @emily_rugburn @autistics
Yes, that's true too. Some people use ambiguity for different purposes, some to wake up fear and manipulate others, make them suffer; yet ambiguity is also at the basis of humor and it may be used then to make others laugh, feel better.
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Ozzelot
in reply to Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama • • •Cats have a higher chance of being trustworthy
@emily_rugburn @me @autistics
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
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Hugs4friends โพ๐บ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ธ๐ท
in reply to Ozzelot • • •Sensitive content
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Miakoda
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sonja
in reply to Miakoda • • •Sensitive content
more akin to herding cats
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Miakoda
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sonja
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not doing what they want it to do "why dont you know what i mean??"
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Miakoda
in reply to sonja • • •@emily_rugburn @punishmenthurts @autistics
Me: "Ok Nabu. When was Loki fed?"
HA: "I don't know of anything called lokafed"
Me: "Hmm... I pronounce that a bit jumbled, apparently. I'll add 'lokafed' to the command."
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Goiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
in reply to Miakoda • • •.
I love that godโs handle. Low key Loki. ๐
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Jonathan Lamothe
in reply to sonja • •@sonja @Actually Autistics I don't know that I've noticed it in exactly that way, but my masking has become so deeply ingrained over the years that I seldom give people the opportunity unless I'm very close with them.
This has occasionally been to my detriment, but it has made me into a really solid independent learner when I find something I really want to sink my teeth into.
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Energetic Nova
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •@autistics @emily_rugburn
Im missing a rudder for learning on my own. Feels like im drifting in spaceโฆ
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sonja
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Laberpferd
in reply to sonja • • •@emily_rugburn @autistics
Yes
My pain mostly comes from trying to join specific alternative lifestyles and their special-interest groups (like around the german BDSM scene)
People there literally say things like "we are not here to spoonfed you" or "we dont deal with low-effort people"
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Ulrike
in reply to sonja • • •@emily_rugburn
Oh yes! It is sooo making tired to explain... and never been understood (hope my english is ok ๐)
@me @autistics
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รngela Stella Matutina
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Jonathan Lamothe
in reply to StarkRG • •DFX4509B (Joshua Mason)
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •Talking on the phone is something I've always sucked at, while I'm completely fluent when typing out text messages and do that on the reg.
Also, it's possible to manage sensory issues and the like; I used to have major issues with getting goopy stuff on my skin, so things like paint, glue, etc, for the longest time as a kid, for example, although I have since learned to manage that and it's not really an issue for me anymore, but that still takes a lot of time and effort to get to that point and sensory issues don't just go away even if they're successfully managed; they still exist.
Jonathan Lamothe
in reply to DFX4509B (Joshua Mason) • •@DFX4509B (Joshua Mason) Yeah, my biggest problem is that my mouth doesn't have a backspace key. I can draft and re-draft written correspondence before hitting send, but when I say a thing, it's just out there.
Also, I sometimes need multiple passes over a sentence to process what someone has said (or written). People get upset when I ask them to repeat certain things more than once. When it's written, I just move my eyes back to the beginning of the sentence as many times as necessary and nobody's any the wiser (except for me, I guess).
DFX4509B (Joshua Mason)
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •Also, it feels kinda nice to be able to open up here or on Mastodon, while if I tried opening up similarly on Facebook or Twitter, or sadly even Bsky to some extent for that matter, I'd probably get ostracized for it.
Although I'm more of a visual type when it comes to expression anyways, as in I like to draw or paint a lot and consider myself pretty good at it.
JB ๐
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •No Exceptions
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •I have bipolar disorder, in treatment for decades. It's a neurodivergent condition as well.
I kinda don't care what people take me for, though. Some people are just going to find what they don't like wherever they look.
I scare people.
And I trust no one.
Miakoda
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in reply to Miakoda • •Thomas Svensson ๐
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •It sure is. But the times I get consideration it is for them a passing moment in time, while for me it is literary my everyday.
Too often the same people forget that moment, the next times we are in a similar situation.
Sonikku
in reply to Jonathan Lamothe • • •That <insert_expletive_here> boss of mine totally doesn't get this at all, yet somehow he became a people leader.
Has the people skills of a bowling ball
Jonathan Lamothe
in reply to Sonikku • •@Sonikku All too freaking common.
A good boss should reduce or remove barriers that impede their subordinates from doing their job effectively. Shockingly few can actually accomplish this.