Any Waterloo folk want to talk about sovereign tech? I think we should do a sovereign tech meetup. This stuff is feeling really important and so I'm starting to think.
@Bob Jonkman But like - literally - I'm thinking we grab a patio spot at like - the Piper Arms or somewhere simple? And do a meetup? Labour Day feels like it would be symbolic but busy?
I think it is a good conversation and I am going to follow you for your thoughts about it, but I cannot do meetups with any level of consistency these days. I know extremely little, but am interested in getting my stuff off of US servers.
@Rob Drimmie Hey! I don't know if I can say much! But I'm mostly just trying to figure out what kind of conversations we as tech workers can have to improve the situation. All my stuff is hosted from my house though so I'd love to talk.
(We talked many years ago when I was working for for Athena Software if you recall! Hello!)
With #3DPrinting being so accessible and #PCB manufacturing being reasonably inexpensive, I wonder how much I'm underestimating how difficult it would be to design and build a fully #FOSS #game console. I'm thinking something reminiscent of the #NES; I'm not trying to compete with modern consoles.
@Digit At the moment, I'm very broke and my executive function sucks since I'm off ADHD meds, so it'll probably take forever for me to finish, but It's something I want to do.
It does look like someone's beaten me to it, but I'm not trying to be the first, just to enjoy the challenge.
And indeed. It's the adventure, the learning, the creating, more than the having.
(and yeah, I hear ya on the executive functioning fails... I've never yet had medication for my ADHD (not even officially diagnosed), this place is a mess... and yet, when the idea struck, and I followed the inspiration, the whim, at the start of this month, much to my astonishment, I made a fin, from zero to proof of concept, in less than a week, and development continues... ks392457.kimsufi.com/drnw/fin.… | codeberg.org/Digit/fin/ | youtu.be/dhJaNQi8400 😮 ... So it happens when it happens. #ADHD -> #VAST 😁 )
Looking for somebody with executive function and a driver's license with the ability to bring some grounding kindness to a burned out autistic trying to get her blazing dumpster fire back down to a smolder.
Need help with all sorts of adulting, my cog is just fried. Pretty flex just need extra brains and body. Pay $20/hr 5-10hr/wk. #Guelph area
☝️also if yer in the Guelph area and think, hey that Valerie would be pretty cool to hang out with, boop me. The social isolation has been a huge drain on my energy, I find I perk up quite a bit around kind, authentic, loving people (aka you lot). So could definitely use a meatspace kindness fix.
@pascaline aw.. wow that is so kind to just drop in and say. Melts mah lil heart. 🥰
I'm gonna focus on meatspace right now, but may circle back to stuff like this.
In the meantime, if yer not hip to @lonelinesscorps it's a group for anybody that wants to connect online one way or another. Battling social isolation one toot at a time. Might be interesting for ya.
Thanks 😊 I know how bad it all can feel, and how draining. I am glad my words made you smile. Get better if you can, get well, and by 'well' I mean in the way that makes you happiest 😊 Thanks for the top, too ❤️
@Valerie Roney Guelph is closer than I expected, but still a little far for me (Kitchener). Also, my executive function is only moderate at best these days. Boosting for reach.
@me aw thanks Jonathan. And job posting aside, I am definitely looking for meatspace connections anywhere in the area, Kitchener isn't too far away, if ya wanna hang out sometime.
The skills trainer at the local meganationalconglomerized therapy place suggested a "Personal Care Attendant" apparently there's actually certification for that sort of thing. She said carina.org/ might have listings of PCAs looking for work. It requires a login, but I signed up and it seemed relatively straightforward.
@cy thanks. I've been through that sort of thing a few times and it just doesn't cough out the right kind of support for me. I don't fit.
I mostly need to connect with other beautiful weirdos to do the sort of stuff a competent friend would do. It changes all the time depending on how I am feeling. And right now I need big problem solver mode, care attendants are too structured a support.
@richpuchalsky As an ND living in an ND home, I can attest that there is often a significant and obvious "remediation of the physical environment" component to treating burnout.
If I were closer, I'd take you up on the job offer. Alas... I'm 4186 km away. Also, I'd offer up my oldest daughter who does want to move to Canada but alas, she doesn't have her driver's license yet.
@pussreboots Thanks! I am open to all sorts of things, driver's license would be very helpful, but nothing is crucial aside from someone grounded and kind. I need help with all the things, brain and body, company and problem solving. It's throw spaghetti at the wall and see what sticks time. Vid chat sometime would be nice. 💛
☝️ also also, I need local IT help. Lots of fiddly things like the OS boot order on my laptop (w Ubuntu). Helping set up and sort out a bunch of stuff on my android phone. Mostly stuff that would be easy peasy bits for somebody with those skills, but horribly grindy on my broken brain.
Can do as a fun social thing, or also happy to pay for the support, as I know just about everybody is struggling.
There's a program called grub customizer which will set your boot order. It's easy to use, but it's not the simplest to install because they don't have it just in the repo. Do a search on "install grub-customizer on Ubuntu xx.xx" using the version number of the Ubuntu you're using. The instructions will be simple cut and paste, but you will need the terminal. After it's installed, you can run it from your desktop.
@bardmoss that's very kind, but I don't have the reading comprehension to turn those words into concepts. Thus I am looking for someone in meatspace I can work with in person.
☝️yet another also: Also, for context, I moved to #Guelph 18mos ago, got covid on the way here, which wrecked me, and left me with weird brain injury.
Am deeply grateful for my online community (you lot✨) that kept me sane and filled up my soul while I was too ill to get out and meet new ppl and build a network here.
But now the lack of local connection is making lots of stuff hard, and lonely. So am throwing spaghetti at all the walls.
"So boop me, even if it's tangential to my asks." Okay, I'm taking you up on that! Would you be interested at all in a friendly Discord server for "disabled people with caregivers"? It doesn't require that you *have* a caregiver, just that you *need* some sort of support in that way, including informal.
My headmates and I have been a part of this server for about a year now, and we really like it. We've gotten help before in there with the wording of caregiver ads!
@fern this sounds awesome. I am desperate fpr meatspace connections, my online community is rich but I need something more visceral right now. Would love to boost this for others though if yer cool with that. Sounds like a great community.
There are 9 versions of iTunes and iMovie which are pretty fun. Older versions of stuff that you have to rent nowadays that you could just buy back then. Some fun music software too.
If you can find a copy of Cricket Draw, it will blow your mind what was possible back then. Kai’s Power Goo is also lots of fun. There was also a tool for creating 3D worlds, but I’m blanking on the name
Hey Fedi, I could use some help with this one. I'm in over my head.
We have an #Insignia portable #WashingMachine (model: NS-TWM16WH9). The agitator has suddenly stopped, well, agitating. It makes a buzzing sound as though the motor is being engaged, but no motion. A quick internet search identified a slipped belt as a plausible culprit, but I found what appears to be the belt at the botton of the machine, and it seems perfectly fine, though I don't know if it's perhaps the one that spins the drum (which is working fine).
It doesn't throw an error code, or give any other indication that the computer is even aware there is a problem.
Any ideas what else the issue could be? At the moment, I have it sitting unplugged as I don't know if there's a big ass capacitor in there, storing a charge waiting to strike me down when I go prodding, and to be honest, I'm decidedly in over my head on this one. At least it soesn't seem to require security bits though.
I'm sure it's out of warranty and we can't afford to replace. Any suggestions would be welcome. Boosts appreciated.
I never saw a washing with 2 belts (but I'm not saying the don't exist) so if the best is fine I'd look for exhausted brushes on the motor, which are two pieces of graphite that wears down and eventually have to be replaced. #repaircafe
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I would love it if people had the same level of "Wikipedia isn't always right, you know" skepticism about... literally all other sources, regardless of context.
It's so weird how for decades most people around me were like "whoa, gotta be careful, can't trust wikipedia" and now many of those same people are taking whatever AI cooks up hook, line, & sinker.
I'm beginning to think it was never about actual info quality or actual critical thinking.
!Friendica Support I've been having trouble following the user @hairylarry. My server throws an error that it can't find a published feed, however I am able to follow @screwlisp who is on the same server. I suppose it's technically possible that they've blocked me, but that would surprise me as we've interacted recently and I didn't discern any hint of any kind of problem.
To my knowledge the most canonical way to find something or someone on your home instance is to Search Paste without spaces: https ://gamerplus.org/@ hairylarry Whatever your instance returns is your instance's version of that link. @jerry @helpers @hairylarry
@screwlisp @Jerry on Friendica I managed to get it working. I'm really not sure what changed, but I think that @hairylarry following me first made a difference for some reason.
@screwlisp @Jerry on Friendica I managed to get it working. I'm really not sure what changed, but I think that @hairylarry following me first made a difference for some reason.
@jerry They actually both worked for me but with a different look. Without /deck the post was large and in the center. With /deck it was in the right column.
@uoou Yeah, I woke up to my mail client complaining that it hadn't been able to connect since about 1AM. Web interface was throwing an error after I supplied 2FA. Literally a couple minutes after I asked, the problem resolved itself.
Just throwing this out there, but does anyone happen to know of a good 찐빵 (jjinppang) recipe? I've been trying to find it for years. You'd think that for all the stores/restaurants specializing in Korean food in the area I'd have been able to find it, but no.
I'm sure I could google a recipe, but if I'm going to go to the trouble to make it (which I understand is somewhat extensive) I'd like to know I have a good recipe.
Made those (apparently) viral potato lentil burritos a couple days ago and they were amazing, so we made a giant stock pot's worth of filling to freeze in batches.
They're stupidly cheap, delicious, and really high in fibre (which we're old enough that we care about that kind of thing now).
@Boyd Stephen Smith Jr. I never trust stuff to stay online so I transcribed it (and linked the original). Here's a link in both PDF and markdown formats.
Welp, #Debian 13 is out. I wonder how long it'll take me to get around to upgrading. Every time I do, something always breaks. It's always fixable, but annoying.
Just had an appointment with my family doctor. Mostly good news, except for the fact that when we discussed finally being able to go back on #ADHD meds (which I had come off of because we were worried about them worsening another issue) he's going to want me to be re-evaluated for ADHD.
I can't wait to jump through those hoops again for the umpteenth time.
It kinda made sense when he took over for my old family doctor and my records hadn't been transferred over yet. All he had to go on was my word for it and a previous prescription bottle.
This guy hasn't liked me being on them from day one though, and has tried to get me off them on multiple occasions.
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A couple of posts today made me think about the connection between masking and imposter syndrome, especially for those of us who have realised late that we are autistic. I have long believed that there are essentially two aspects to the way that we masked. Masking ourselves from the world and masking ourselves from ourselves and that both of these contributed to being able to stay below the radar of realising what we were for so long. But, perhaps, the most important one, was not the face we showed the world, mostly because I doubt if that was ever as good as we thought it was, but the mirror we learnt to see ourselves in.
That internal masking of ourselves can take many forms.
I thought it was just me.
But, everyone does it this way.
No one else is bothered, or even seems to be noticing. I must be just imagining it, or too sensitive. It can't be real.
I've tried talking about it, but no one took me seriously, they thought I was joking. It's obviously just me. I really must be broken, or mad.
I can't see myself anywhere, I can't be right.
I can't be this way, no one else is.
I must be wrong.
And so much else...
So much of it is denial and disbelieve, as much as anything, and it doesn't go away once we begin to realise the truth. It doesn't magically lose its power. It has to be faced and defeated as a deliberate act of de-masking, that, perhaps, never really ends, because we've carried and tended to it for too long. And, all the time, it is a voice of doubt and so-called reason in our minds that can fuel our imposter syndrome. That can make us doubt our journey, our revelations, our truth. Because that was always its job. It is the reason we created it. To mask ourselves from the truth. Because, it wasn't the truth we saw, or were able to accept.
This isn't to say, by any means, that it is the only bone our imposter syndrome will chew on. But, for those of us who are late realising our truth, it is perhaps a particularly meaty one. Because it has been with us for so long, our only answer to the darkness we lived in and the only world we could see.
so well put. When you talk of mirrors it strikes a chord. I hate them, and only use one if completely necessary. I have no real self image, and feel very disconnected with seeing or hearing myself. I wonder if it is connected somehow. Luckily my wife will tell me I need to flatten my hair or change a shirt to fit the occasion
@Aspiedan I suspect there is a connection. I can't say I'm overly fond of mirrors either. But then, if you barely received validation of who you were growing up, then expecting to see anything good is hardly likely. Whereas seeing the unflinching truth of yourself is.
@Aspiedan I went the other direction. I obsessively practiced in the mirror growing up so I’d know what different facial expressions felt like enough that I could replicate them by feel and include them in my scripts.
I don’t know if it’s any better or worse. I have no identity. Through my incredibly exhaustive observation of body language and emotional responses I build my scripts and alter my personality to fit the situation and people I am interacting with.
It’s not only exhausting for me but manipulative and prevents me from connecting with anyone at any level. This is way beyond code switching.
@bflipp @Aspiedan This could almost be one of the most harmful ways of masking. It's exhausting and stressful and also leaves you wondering what, if anything, lies beneath it any more. It's also hard to get out of the habit of doing it, once you've been doing it for long enough.
@Aspiedan In my experience it’s impossible to stop. It has left me completely alone now in middle age which I honestly don’t see a way out of.
I truly don’t have an identity of my own. I simply have a set of well rehearsed masks based on people I observed growing up. In any interaction I absorb the emotions and body language of everyone present and I adapt the persona I feel is the most suitable at the time.
@bflipp @Aspiedan I do this too. Read the room, adjust accordingly. The difference, for me, was that what I'm adjusting was based on myself. I took, sometimes exaggerated, sometimes emphasised, the aspects of myself that others seemed to like and accept. My intellect, humour, or just simply the ability to get on with people that I seem to have. I try not to do this as much now and I do wonder what the real balance of myself looks like. It is something I am still working on. Perhaps, without realising it, you did something similar. Perhaps, what you worked on in the mirror, was shaping yourself as much as anything. Like me, perhaps what you really need, is to find the right balance.
@bflipp @Aspiedan I've been contemplating this myself, and a good Youtube video on this subject came my way: "The Dangers of Missing a Sense of Self": youtube.com/watch?v=hfqEqIgBYO…
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@bflipp @Aspiedan This hits close to home. The first diagnosis I got after I hopped into the mental health bingo this time, almost ten years ago now, was a bogus "unspecified identity disorder". But for all the whacky reasoning he had, I guess in the end he was onto something.
I also don't really feel like I have an identity. I have a personality, but not identity. I also didn't really have a chance to observe and practice things growing up with real people, so a lot of my personas were or I guess still are adapted from television and movies. And I can tell ya, real life isn't anything like an US sitcom...
@undefined_variable @bflipp @Aspiedan I found something like an Identity only in recent years. The problem with it is: I don't fit neatly in the social categories offered to me. What's, if you belong to multiple seamingly mutually exclusive categories and have an additional layer on top? And many people don't know such people with such complex identities can exist and can't handle this.
I wouldn’t say I was obsessive, but I certainly lost my sense of self. When I heard the “fake it ‘til you make it” mantra at a professional development thing for teachers, I knew I’d been doing that my whole life.
As an aside, some of the teachers at the school made a video satirising the concept a few months later.
@Aspiedan I used to depersonalise easily when I saw my reflection, but not all the time. But enough to be significant. Logically I'd know it's me, but I'd feel a disconnect. Strangely, it doesn't happen as much recently. I can even make eye contact with my reflection these days without freaking out.
The exception being when I'm at work. If I catch my reflection in a mirror, or on a shiny bolt when I'm working on a bike, I flinch and have to look away. It just freaks me out. That might be the disconnect between masking and seeing who I am.
This kind of thing is a known trait of #schizoid, is it also common among other neurodivergences? I don't remember seeing depersonalisation as autistic/ADHD trait.
@SilverArrows @Aspiedan I don't know how common it is. But, I suspect it's one of those things where it is difficult to tell if it is the autism, or trauma, or something else. We tend to be quite intersectional beasties.
Very well said. I've felt like that for a major part of my life. The first time I noticed that something must be really off and it's not just "me being whiny", was when I opened up to my former wife about how hard just about everything feels for me and that I just feel exhausted. She basically replied with: "I don't believe you, I don't see that."
I felt absolutely devastated but at the same time thought, how good must I be in hiding my problems? This isn't right. It took several more years from that point to find out that I'm autistic.
@vger The disconnect between how we were and how others thought we could be, was a barrier that was terribly isolating. At least until we could begin to believe ourselves.
Once I got the diagnosis, I came out to a colleague and his first response was: "But do you really feel that diagnosis? Because I talked alot with people about autism, and ..."
Luckily our conversation was interrupted at that point.
The first Matrix movie used the phrase "residual self image". I think about that a lot with regard to how my brain processes my sense of self these days.
I don't know if you've had occasion or inclination to read my posts* about the ttrpg vampire clan Malkavian or not (about how I think they were meant to represent neurodivergence), but what you said about the mirror reminded me of it. This is because their clan symbol is a broken mirror. The reason is because the mirror is supposed to represent your self-image. But it's just an image, an illusion, there's nothing behind the mirror. So Malkavian wisdom says that in order to progress in life, you have to break the mirror, i.e. destroy your self image because it is holding you back from realizing and becoming who you really are. A truism I think for everyone, but it seems to be yet another way Malkavians make a good representation of neurodivergence.
I don't know how many in the autistic community have played the ttrpg called Vampire: The Masquerade, but I've had some interesting insights about the game since my self-realization that I'd like to share about it.
In the game, vampires are divided into clans, each with their own vampire powers, weaknesses, culture, outlook, and goals. For example the Brujah clan are known as rebels and strong fighters, while the Ventrue clan are aristocratic, manipulative, and like to be in charge.
One clan is called Malkavian, and the only thing that they all have in common is that they are all insane. It's even in the rules that you have a pick a mental illness that your character suffers from, such as being bipolar, or has multiple personalities. Other than that, they have the greatest diversity of any clan, and can look like anything, act like anything, have any goals, beliefs, etc.
But since learning about autism and neurodivergence, I've come to the belief that Malkavians were never about mental illness, but instead neurodivergence. They don't just suffer from their affliction and that's the sum of them. There's talk about how they are often regarded as seers, prophets, and oracles, that they see the truth of things that others do not. They often have trouble communicating these truths to other people, and often have trouble even understanding the social rules of "normal" vampire society. They sometimes feel as though they live in another reality altogether, but it is one that they all seem to share. Regardless of their near infinite diversity, they mostly seem to just "get" each other, can communicate more easily with each other, and even share ideas on a level not accessible to other vampires (called the "Malkavian Madness Network"). One of their vampire powers even lets them change their appearance, called "Mask of 1000 Faces", so "masking" is something many of them are familiar with. Another power of theirs gives them supernatural insight, such as seeing people's auras or reading their minds. Yet another ability is psychically making others ignore them, as though they were invisible. They often have to hide as a defense mechanism due to the abuse they receive from others for being different. They are often misunderstood, but when they aren't, they can make powerful allies.
There was a time when many people were getting upset because people played the Malkavians as silly, complaining that the players were not treating the subject of mental illness seriously. But like I said, I don't think that they were ever supposed to be about mental illness, but rather neurodiversity. I think that the creators of the game had a good grasp of the subject, but just didn't have the words we use today to classify it. The Malkavians are treated as mentally ill, even though they are just different, and the fact they actually have to have a mental illness according to the rules I think is just a reflection of how many of us suffer from mental illnesses *in addition* to our neurodivergence, not because of it.
All this would explain why I took to that clan the moment I first heard of them, and have been a big fan ever since. In addition to playing them in both tabletop and live games, I've written about them, from stories, to poems, songs, even had a website at one time. They've been a big part of me for a long time now, and now I think I know why. Also I wonder how many other people who have played Malkavians were also neurodivergent in real life.
@murdoc Yes, I have seen your posts. Although I do not play games, there does seem an echo there. The mirrors we hold up to ourselves and try to see ourselves in, so seldom represent the truth. So indeed, we have to break them, before we can even begin to do so.
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Haven't had McDonald's in a while, but Katy wanted it, so we got some. As a diabetic, my drink options are limited, but I opted for a sugar free cold brew coffee.
I'm shocked at how much I enjoyed it. I think I might actually like it better than the stuff I make at home. I'm kinda mad about it, actually. 🙃
Sometimes there is stuff that you can do in catering sizes, that can never be recreated at home. Or, you might want to find out what beans they are using and how they do it.
@silverwizard @Kevin Davy I get a specific brand of beans from Costco (don't remember the name but recognise the bag when I see it) and fresh grind them. I'm fortunate in that our tap water seems pretty good just on its own for hardness and so forth. The rest is just about the consistency of the measurements. (It was actually at your suggestion a while ago I started using a kitchen scale.)
I don't know that it's the best coffee in the world but given that pre-made cold brew is generally expensive and rather hit-and-miss for me, and this produces what I deem to be a consistently good cup of coffee at a fraction of the price, I've deemed it Good Enough for Me™.
@silverwizard Also, the recipe I adapted mine from said that a pitcher would keep in the fridge for up to two weeks. At first, I had no reason to doubt this because it never lasted me that long anyway.
I've since had to moderate my caffeine intake, and have learned to make less at a time because the quality seems to degrade a bit after about a week.
@Jonathan Lamothe I've made coldbrew based on your video on it, so good full circle!
Yeah, that's shocking. I find coldbrew does better sweet than a lot - was it that it had a solid creamer you're missing out in? I use a squirt of stevia syrup these days (for complex reasons invovling too much stevia)
@silverwizard That could be what it was. I usually drink my coffee black with a little sugar-free syrup. I do change the syrups up from time to time to keep it interesting, though.
@Jonathan Lamothe I think coldbrew doesn't have the same flavour pop as hot coffee (which is why I use coldbrew for "coffee flavoured milkshakes") - and so you might be disguising a lot of complexity and not filling it in.
You know, it’s pretty irresponsible that these documentation platforms are starting to shove AI scribes and note writers down our throats without any mention that malpractice attorneys recommend against using these tools, and some even have started writing into policies that they won’t cover complaints related to use of AI
Yes each provider should be checking their own policy AND ALSO how hard would it be to include one single note about the risks when they implement this stuff
Btw I talked to my malpractice rep on Friday who reminded me that “HIPAA compliant” does not always = secure because HIPAA approved BAAs don’t mention AI tools at all so technically my EHR can do whatever they want with AI data and not be liable, but I am still liable for choosing to use them. So thanks TherapyNotes for never once mentioning this.
I was looking into online therapy, and the HIPAA standard at the time was an app called Bluejeans. I read the terms and conditions and they scraped and sold every bit of data but the actual content of my therapy session, and I couldn't find any clause that would prevent them from simply storing my session until they get the law changed.
HIPAA is like airport security. It's performative.
thank you for saying this. as an expert on the information privacy side of things, we strongly agree and it's been quite distressing to hear anecdotes about medical practitioners uncritically adopting this stuff without any thought to it.
@ireneista Honestly I found out by accident because a company I consult with asked me to look into it for them. Thank god I decided not to use it myself because Therapy Notes is pushing hard for all of us to use it.
@ireneista hi Doc, IT guy here. I don't know if it makes you feel ANY better, but believe me, it's not just your profession. I don't really want to dive into the "but WHY when it's so OBVIOUSLY stupid" rabbit hole right now, but our current crop of oligarchs are positively DROOLING to force everybody into using this garbage no matter how inappropriate it is.
Not to worry, our fearless leaders in Washington and state houses will enact laws granting AI immunity from lawsuits. When their donors say jump, the politicians ask how high.
My GP handed me a piece of paper about their intent to use an AI scribe, about eight months ago. I read the paper, and noted that the concept of consent had not been mentioned. I said, "well, i guess as i haven't a 'NO' option, it'll have to be yes. Do i have a 'NO' option?"
She gave a big theatrical sigh (a 63-year-old woman!), and said yes, i could opt out. I indicated that i would do so. She said, a bit plaintively, "I just wanted to spend more time with my kids."
I said, "Respectfully, you are a doctor. You own your practice. If you want more time, make more time. You set the labour conditions here. And my opposition is twofold: 1) it doesn't work very well, and it makes up wrong information when it can't find an answer. 2) and you're giving away *my* data to train their planet-destroying magic eight-ball. Without compensation to me. You get "free" access to be their unpaid trainers and data providers, and they get my data, and the only person getting nothing is me."
Seeing i wasn't budging, and also a lack of useful rebuttal, she sighed again and got on with my appt.
I didn't mention to her the human job(s) she'd also destroyed in signing this "free" deal. Just a complete trainwreck of a decision. If i could reasonably get a new GP without spending far too long hunting up one who knows trans medicine, i'd be gone. I don't actually trust her judgement. She will probably get to using their "Doctor's Buddy" chatbot, to discuss my case with. I feel that is unfortunately likely, fr.
I don't know what it's realy called, but we all know it exists, to make helpful suggestions based on your private medical data it just ingested, and which she naively believes can be meaningfully anonymised for a small-population identity? Know my birthplace and my exact age, that i'm trans, my city, you can find my identity to match to my medical records (all online now) with your local data broker. I am an immigrant; my birthplace is likely unique here. Do the math.
I need to make a sign in order to tap it: If You Can't Say "No", Then You Can't Say "Yes". Or maybe: If You Can't Dissent, Then You Can't Consent. @oldladyplays
I have a terrible feeling that if I research the history of “consent” as a concept, I’m gonna find that time periods when we as individuals are believed to have meaningful rights around consent are rare and short. /sad
it doesn't work very well, and it makes up wrong information when it can't find an answer
worse than that: it "makes up" an answer all the time. those answers happen to be accidentally correct often enough to fool people into thinking this random diceroll on steroids can actually think, but it doesn't "find an answer". it is incapable of anything resembling a thought process, so it can't "find" an "answer".
@oldladyplays In a time where the trans community is under serious attack, having that info in some random ass chatbot is extremely dangerous. Perhaps mention you too would like not to be kept from your family... cause that is unfortunately a real possible consequence in the political landscape we find ourselves in.
Put enough pressure on clinicians that they can’t keep up without compromising and using AI. Fire the ones who lag behind. When malpractice hits the remaining ones, oops, not our problem, no payout, no premium increase.
Medicine has too many administrators and C levels at the wheel.
if in wanted to emboss text around the outer rounded edge of a cylinder, how would I go about doing that? I don't know how to transform an object on a curve like that.
There is no general way to roll up a shape like that. All solutions for text on cylinder just position each character independently with a for loop over the string, so each one is still flat and it only really works with fixed width fonts.
while I use #gmsh and not openscad, and I haven't been concerned with wrapping 3dised text particularly, I think there isn't an especially 'good' way of curving a previously flat plane viz 3D meshing. If this were generally doable the world would be crazy.
If each letter is separate, I guess you would just have each letter's separate normal be radial to the cylinder and dphi would basically just be the normal spacing between the letters.
I want to put relief text on curved surface but can't find way to do that in OpenSCAD. I'm aware it's possible to bend text in Blender and then import stl, but I don't like this workflow. I found s...
I want to put relief text on curved surface but can't find way to do that in OpenSCAD. I'm aware it's possible to bend text in Blender and then import stl, but I don't like this workflow. I found s...
The Belfry OpenScad Library, v2.0. An OpenSCAD library of shapes, masks, and manipulators to make working with OpenSCAD easier. BETA - BelfrySCAD/BOSL2
Something that would solve this problem would be if the language supported a transform that would take a function as an input (either a name or some kind of lambda) that would take a set of coordinates as an input and return a modified set of coordinates. It would then apply this transformation to each vertex of its children.
Any technical solution that is supposed to block teenagers from anything is not going to work very well, because you are facing an opponent that:
* is smarter than you, * is very dedicated, * has a lot of free time, * has an extensive network of friends, * faces no serious consequences if caught, * outnumbers you, * considers you an immoral crook.
You really, *really* want to have them on your side. That means education rather than control.
I feel like this is an easily learned lesson. It's shocking to me how many people in this generation with power and political authority somehow missed the whole MPAA story from not even 30 years ago.
Not so. It's important to try age verification even if it's imperfect. Otherwise you are just favouring pornographers having unlimited access to children.
@david_colquhoun We don't have age verification on the Fediverse, and we also don't have children interacting with sexual material, because everyone agrees it shouldn't happen. (I've seen some children complaining about this, but even those complaints come from an "I'm not going to do this but I think it's ridiculous I have to not" perspective.)
@TCMuffin @wizzwizz4 @david_colquhoun ... and monitored with questionable content removed (at least the server i'm on where they even had issues with criticism of stupid faiths)
@bcaligari @wizzwizz4 @david_colquhoun …monitored by volunteer moderators who believe in protecting the community to provide a safe and welcoming social space for all our users…at least it is in our corner of the Fediverse.
@TCMuffin @bcaligari @david_colquhoun And the places where such material is allowed? They also believe in protecting the community (some of whom are children).
But it's considerably more anarchic than Facebook-style top-down moderation: people who don't play their part in moderating their own notifications… well, I don't see any of those people, so I assume they're removed from the premises, but maybe they were just never here to begin with.
@wizzwizz4 facebook-addicts I know believe all kind of racist-motivated disinformation and are OK with - fascism - genocide - bigotry - climate-change denialism - anti working class/leftist and pro-billionaires and pro white collar criminality bullshit - hate toward cyclist and road rage justifications/denialism because "cyclists put others in danger" (total BS when you look at facts)
@devnull @TCMuffin @bcaligari @david_colquhoun There's enough moderation to traumatise their employees – sorry, self-employed independent subcontractors – but not enough to make a difference.
When the structure is wrong, no amount of application of authority is going to fix the resulting problems.
My point is: Vertical "moderation" doesn't work because vertical "moderation" is specific to for-profit scructures that design moderation rules (as opposed to collaborative moderation) and those rules are designed in a way that doesn't "conflict" with profit. Hosting hate speech is profitable.
Also capitalism needs fascism to impose its bullshit through violence
@david_colquhoun Pornographers don't want to have "unlimited access to children" because it's not their target audience. Groomers do, but from victims confessions, groomers very rarely, if ever, use porn, because they don't want the kids AWARE what is happening is sex. Which is why groomers are HAPPY for any sex education being barred from children. Which is what actually happens with blocks like that (sex education being labeled adult and verification-blocked from children).
@david_colquhoun even assuming what you say is correct, what is an acceptable price for that? Is it ok to out closeted people by forcing them away from anonymity into a database that *will* be leaked at some point? Or anyone that had a slightly different preference? This doesn't just add age verification it removes online anonymity for everyone. And once that bits gone other bits will follow.
@david_colquhoun That seems backwards to me. Not attempting age verification perhaps makes it easier for teenagers to access porn, but at least in doing so they’re anonymous. Age verification means theyre not. It’s also laughable to think that it can possibly be pulled off without egregious invasions of everyone’s privacy totally disporportionate to the goal sought to be achieved, but that’s a different question (although it should inform law and policy).
this is a really good point - the very thing being proposed completely undermines the number one (maybe number zero) rule that kept kids safe from predators on the internet!
@david_colquhoun It's kinda sweet that there are people who believe the opposition to age verification comes from people who want to access porn rather than people who don't want Big Tech to have access to everyone's verified identity.
@david_colquhoun Age-restricting media is only ever going to hurt all vulnerable kids more than it will protect any kid from being harmed by a predator.
Like the book purges in the US, these laws will prevent queer kids, kids of color, and kids being abused, from accessing age-appropriate material that will help them survive their traumas. That's intended with these parentalistic laws. The "think of the children" battle-cry is used to trigger a protective reflex to manufacture consent.
@raganwald @david_colquhoun As we are already seeing, LGBTQ-positive content is being categorised as "porn" and homophobic hate speech as "not porn". So now gay teenagers are only allowed to see the latter...
@raganwald @david_colquhoun Moreover: In retrospect, was it so terrible that you managed to get all those things? Why restrict access so badly when us older people managed to do just fine in our youth?
There are lots of things I'd like to "shield" young people from. The list doesn't start with porn though. And it doesn't work though age verification.
everyone is acting like children exist in a vacuum. Children (most, anyway) have parents, it is their responsibility to teach children how to participate in society, how to interpret different things (even when said interpretation may not be to your taste). The children can protect themselves if they are given tools and strategies, and told about dangers.
This right-wing "think of the children" crap is all about surveillance and power over others. If you (as a political force) really cared about children, you would fund the education system and healthcare, so the children can grow up to be responsible adults raising responsible children who can think for themselves.
Should we be separating art from artist? A long rant in which I explain why this question is utter nonsense, using transphobe JK Rowling as an example.
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I sought advice about this after learning that the rumors about Michael Jackson had been confirmed. Because the associations of his music haven't changed for me.
My friend/spiritual adviser's take on it was that engaging with the work of a dead artist who's scum is OK. As you said.. if your engagement isn't benefiting them. And borrowing their work or stealing it is also ethical.
I'm having a much harder time with Neil Gaiman; he's used his wealth in ways that harm individuals for his own gratification, and also for ways that benefit the world at large (fighting censorship). I wasn't able to finish a book of his I borrowed from the library just before the news dropped, but did still rewatch the first season of "Sandman." I'm honestly torn about him. He's more complicated than Rowling in this, too.
Part of the issue is that, unusually for me, I had parasocial fondness for him. I admired him as a person, so finding out he's morally repulsive hurt. And the artists who contracted to work on the show before they knew didn't do anything wrong. Part of me wants to watch the second season.
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@Fishercat "As you said.. if your engagement isn't benefiting them. "
What I said is more complex than that, because it's not just about the fact that buying art can benefit the artist (though it can, and that's v relevant in JK's case), it's also about the harm that might be spread if people know you're supporting the person.
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The thing I find most offputting is the fact that a lot of Harry Potter fans seem to put way more effort into getting defensive about their enjoyment of the problematic wizard books than they do pushing back against JKR’s shitfuckery.
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@melivia Because they're attacked on said enjoyment, and not on the author being a horrible human being, which is not on them?
Ultimately, when you point out something someone enjoys is tainted, you *are* judging them, you *are* (if they're not arses) hurting them despite them having not done anything bad knowingly.
It's simply not fair to complain people get defensive! @girlonthenet
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@melivia we can all agree JK went crazy and horrid (and she clearly radicalised badly over time).
Wherever one stands on art/artist, I think what you hold yourself to should not be what you hold others to. Myself, I won't judge people I don't even know. I don't think I have the right.
I do judge JK, though. Wow. piece of work. @girlonthenet
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This is excellent. I would also like to shout out this excellent post by trans author Meryl Wilsner about how supporting transphobia is a choice in light of the several books that began as Harry Potter fanfic being published recently: merylwilsner.kit.com/posts/upd…
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@Girl on the Net I never really got into Harry Potter, so this particular example isn't really a problem for me, however the overall point remains valid. Sometimes, for various reasons, there's a mismatch between my stated values and my actions. The least I can do is acknowledge and work towards resolving them as best I can, rather than making excuses for them.
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I never understood that argument. There are so many artists, writers and musicians out there that I never felt the need to consume content by bad people. You like RHCP? There's other funk bands that aren't rapists. You like Picasso? A lot of women did cubism just as good. It's easy to find work by better people if you look at all.
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Great article! I love that you dug into the nuance of why we might choose to enjoy a work despite the artist, and why we might not be able to bring ourselves to do it in some cases. I feel that in JKR's case it also illustrates another facet, where a lot of folks simply don't see her views (especially early on, before she went completely mask off as a literal Holocaust-denying fascist) as explicitly transphobic, because to a cis/het who has never examined the ingrained transphobic biases that society has been impressing on the for their whole lives, the things she says just don't read as objectionable. Case in point, you're not wrong that there's no overt transphobia in the HP books, but her views still worm their way in with the treatment of trans-coded characters like Tonks, and the general undertone of bioessentialism about how men are Just Like That which sits at the heart of her transmisogynist views is woven into the structure of the universe she writes. Most folks won't notice that, but it's virtually impossible for those of us in her crosshairs to ignore that her whole "some people are simple Born Worse" schtick very clearly includes people like us.
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not being able to enjoy music because we found out the artist is a rapist is what happened to us with Jeremy Soule. if someone comes at us with "separating the art from the artist" the message we get is that rape isn't something to be upset about and we shouldn't care. whether it's cause they are scared of being judged, because they genuinely think rape isn't a big deal, or because they think we're simply too irrational and emotional for being unable to compartmentalize this away, that's an awful thing to say to someone.
So, I've been getting reasonably decent with #OpenSCAD. I've debated opening an Etsy store, but I don't own a #3DPrinter. While I do have access to a couple for personal projects, I have nothing that would be suitable for commercial use, nor do I have the seed money to buy one.
One of the services I'm thinking of offering in the interim is creating custom STL files for people based on a rough sketch or photo, but I don't know if that would be a viable thing.
Is that a thing anyone here would have interest in?
I suppose I could also outsource the actual printing, but that would add lead time and overhead cost to the project. I've learned from experience that an invoice presented to a customer and an actual payment are very different things and could leave me having to eat that cost.
I wonder if that's something worth discussing with the kwarztLab folks on their Tuesday drop in night? Afaik most have 3D printers, and I expect a few might have done the same?
Someone else this morning had a lovely turn of phrase (third paragraph) around the same experience you might enjoy, if I can offer a bit of secondhand brilliance in solidarity. hachyderm.io/@uberduck/1149061…
I am now being required by my day job to use an AI assistant to write code. I have also been informed that my usage of AI assistants will be monitored and decisions about my career will be based on those metrics.
I gave it an honest shot today, using it as responsibly as I know how: only use it for stuff I already know how to do, so that I can easily verify its output. That part went ok, though I found it much harder to context switch between thinking about code structure and trying to herd a bullshit generator into writing correct code.
One thing I didn't expect, though, is how fucking disruptive it's suggestion feature would be. It's like trying to compose a symphony while someone is relentlessly playing a kazoo in your ear. It flustered me really quickly, to the point where I wasn't able to figure out how to turn that "feature" off. I'm noticing physical symptoms of an anxiety attack as a result.
I stopped work early when I noticed I was completely spent. I don't know if I wrote more code today than I would have normally. I don't think I wrote better code, as the vigilance required is extremely hard for my particular brand of neurospicy to maintain.
As far as the "write this function for me" aspect, I've noticed that I tend to use the mental downtime of typing out a function I've designed to let my brain percolate on the solution and internalize it so I have it in my working memory. This doesn't happen when I'm simply reviewing code written by something else. Reviewing code and writing it are completely separate activities for me. But there's nothing to keep my fingers and thoughts busy while I'm coming up with what to write next.
Is there a good way to watch @peertube videos on a TV yet? There's increasingly stuff on there that I'd like to watch, but I don't like sitting at my desk to watch videos!
I have a Google ChromeCast, it is an extremely convenient gadget to stream all sorts of audio and video to your television, regardless of its make or brand. Today I learnt something new, so let me …
Katy wanted a fancy organizer for her alcohol markers but we didn't have the money for it. What I *did* have was a copy of #OpenSCAD and access to a #3DPrinter, so I made us a better one.
Pretty sure Rogers keeps disconnecting my internet in the middle of the night without notice to do some kind of maintenance hoping that nobody will notice.
I keep having to reboot the modem every morning for the past few days. This time I was awake when it went down.
Katy and I have randomly discovered sumo wrestling and weirdly gotten into it. The first thing I learned was that the people who deliberately get seating in the front rows are... brave.
It's all these dignitaries and rich people, those rows aren't easy to buy, and they get run over a lot. As do the judges, "Shimpan bowling" we call it.
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in reply to Rob Drimmie • • •@Rob Drimmie Hey! I don't know if I can say much! But I'm mostly just trying to figure out what kind of conversations we as tech workers can have to improve the situation. All my stuff is hosted from my house though so I'd love to talk.
(We talked many years ago when I was working for for Athena Software if you recall! Hello!)
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Home hosting is likely the right solution. My needs are very basic.