I've been agonizing over posting this for like 46 minutes now. It started as a reply to one of @FinalGirl's posts (as we're mutuals and her posts give me a glimpse into a side of Mastodon that I don't normally get to see).
So, the meat of what I want to say is that I'd love to have more Black folx in my day-to-day life. There's so much shit that I'm just not privy to because my circles are hella white...and that's fucked up.
At least on Fedi I get to hear about some of the issues the Black community faces, but I also feel like I can't do much other than *try* not to be one of the problematic white folx while boosting Black voices into my circles.
Why the agonizing? Because I know about the three types of Queer Allyβ’, and I assume Black folx deal with something similar.
- Type 1 is "okay with you being queer", but will probably vote against you if it lowers the price of eggs.
- Type 2 puts up a "love is love" sign and congratulates themselves on being such a good allyβthey might even know some queer folx.
- Type 3 has queer friends and family because it's a normal thing to have, supports them like they would anyone they really cared about, and listens to queer voices in their lives when they say there are problems. They may not always "get it", but they actively try.
The problem is that the ratio of the three is like 100:10:1 (if I'm being *really* generous).
I want to be that third type. I worry that I'm that second type. But I know it's safest for Black folx to assume I'm the first type (or worse) because that's just how the numbers workβespecially when the cost of misplaced trust is much higher than the benefit of a potential friend.
Nat
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No donations yet this week π DV survivor & toddler in need of help with legal fees (due every 2 weeks), housing, & moreβabout to hit the SNAP cliff w the shutdown.
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Expecting my 1st legal bill to be issued on Tues 10/28 & will be due on receipt. It may be as high as $4k since we are just getting started so covers the initial stage @ 200/hr. I have about $1k on hand including this week's donations. PLEASE keep boosting & supporting so I don't have a pause in legal support!
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Got my first legal bill for the DV family court lawyer. The good news is it's less than I feared, under $2k! The bad news is I'm still $522 short & it's due now. Plz donate/boost so my lawyer can keep goingβwe're making fantastic progress!!
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Still need another $1800 in the next 7 days to stay on top of lawyer bills, $3800 to hit the goal toward all bills.
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in reply to Nat • • •URGENT #MUTUALAID
Bad news: restraining order denied again, meaning it won't be safe to return to our apartment. $1800 needed for lawyer by Tues 11/11, and we'll need several thousand more to safely relocate.
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