I love living so close to a major Oktoberfest venue. For the past 10 minutes or so, someone's been screaming at someone else, over what specifically, I don't know. I can only make out bits and pieces.
My favourite was "you can't talk like that to me!" My friend, I don't know who said what to you, but I think you've waived your right to complain about that at this point.
Another question in the "is it just #ADHD or is there some #ASD in there too" series:
I've recently learned that some people with autism have a tendency to repeat back phrases verbatim when people talk to them before answering.
I do not think this happens to me (at least not with words I hear) but I do have a tendency to do this with written text, stuff on billboards when we're driving, that sort of thing.
I have no idea why I do this. It's not like it's everything I see either. It's just sort of a compulsion that occasionally strikes for no apparent reason. Is that a thing that makes sense to anyone, or is it just me? I guess I just write it off as a weird thing my mind does when it wanders.
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S3 E4 Gaytheist: Escaping Orthodox Judaism
In this episode of the Cult Vault podcast, I speak with Lonnie, a returning guest who has recently published a graphic memoir titled 'Gaytheist: Coming Out of MSpreaker
Just had the biggest scare of my life.
Some context is necessary. Katy works an evening shift, so we usually sleep in to 10-11AM. She also likes to sleep in absolute darkness, not a single photon in the room. To this end, we've taken drastic measures to ensure that we can have the bedroom very dark, even at noon.
This morning (and I use the term loosely) I woke up to notice that the outlet my phone charger and the nightstand lamp are plugged into was emitting a distinct orange glow. Nothing plugged into it is causing this; it's coming from the outlet itself.
I woke Katy up with an urgent sounding "ummmm". I thought we had a small electrical fire inside the outlet. I ran to the breaker box in the kitchen to throw the breaker for the outlet and grab a screwdriver so I can get into (and hopefully extinguish) the outlet.
Turned off the power and was reaching for the drawer with my screwdriver and Katy says "I think I know what it is."
Turns out, this outlet shares an electrical box with an outlet on the other side of the wall and the sun was shining on it. In the total darkness of the bedroom, the glow I was seeing was sunlight from the other side.
Anyhow, that's how the server abruptly lost power today.
Aargh! Trying to get a continuous blood glucose monitor, but my pharmacy doesn't carry any that have a standalone reader. They all need to be paired to your phone with some proprietary app. There's no way in hell I'm forking that kind of data over to a black box that probably feeds it into some corporate cloud.
There are standalone meters on Amazon, but I doubt I can get my insurance to cover it if it's not coming from a pharmacy.
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Thought I was maybe starting to become somewhat proficient with the #soroban. Then I saw this.
At least I know how proficient it's possible to become.
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I've known I have #ADHD since I was first diagnosed in high school, but sometimes I wonder if perhaps I might be somewhere on the #autism spectrum as well. Let me explain a thing that's going on right now to illustrate what I mean.
I have a canvas messenger bag. I've had it for years and love it. I keep my whole life organized in this bag. Everything has a place and I know exactly where everything is. Recently, one of the snaps that holds it closed gave out. Within a couple of days the second one went as well, so the bag just falls open, which is fine if I keep it upright, but is kind of a pain in the ass.
The place I got it from essentially has a lifetime guarantee. I'm sure I can trade it in for another "equivalent" bag, but I'm sure they won't have this exact one since it's been several years since I bought it. This causes me an enormous amount of anxiety, because the new bag will be different, and I won't just instinctively know where all its contents are (because the configuration of the internal pockets will likely be at least a little different). It's not just the act of replacing the bag, but knowing that it'll mess me up for weeks afterward too.
I feel like this dilemma could possibly be explained by ADHD alone, but I kind of wonder...
Does this resonate with anyone in the #ActuallyAutistic crowd? I am of course not looking for a formal diagnosis or anything. It's more of a curiosity.
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@Diligent Circle 丸 Good to know. I was unaware of the other hashtag. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.
As for how I identify, I guess my answer is... I don't really know. I have however learned a lot from the autistic community on the fedi, and am grateful for that regardless of my status.
Just ran into some #Mormon missionaries in the wild. It's always interesting when they try to strike up a conversation with me.
[...small talk...]
Missionary: So, do you know much about our church?
Me: Yeah, I actually had my records removed back in 2019.
[awkward scilence followed by an abrupt change of subject]
I know I'm late to the #Friendica channels party, but the "Quiet Sharers" channel is really quite nice. It only shows posts from accounts you follow that aren't frequent posters, helping you to find stiff you might otherwise miss.
This is how to do an algorithmic feed* right.
* Yes, I know that sorting posts chronologically is technically an algorithmic feed.
So, I like to set filters that automatically collapse certain posts that I may or may not have the mental bandwidth to engage with at any given time. Friendica lets me do this by regex, but some of them are kinda ugly
Take my Elon filter for instance. I could filter on /elon/i
, but that would falsely trigger on common words like 'melon' or 'belong'. I finally settled on /^(.*[^a-z])?elon([^a-z].*)?$/i
, but that feels overly complicated. Is there a better solution?
Edit: proofreading is for suckers.
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S3 E3 How Universities Protect Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence
Another episode, another week of expert interviews. This time, I sit down with Nicole Bedera to talk about her research on sexual violence within universities.Spreaker
Oh hang on, it gets better.
Apparently signing into the app on my phone using biometrics seems to bypass 2FA. 🤦♂️
My bank required me to set up 2FA. Via SMS. Only method available! So I did, but I wrote to an old friend (who happens to be their chief data architect) explaining why SMS was not the way to go. She spoke to somebody, and sure enough they soon grew the ability to use an authenticator TOTP in addition to SMS. Only issue now is: NO WAY to remove SMS as a valid method.
At least it doesn't reject a GVoice number, which is way safer than a real SIM-based phone in the wild.
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I will not comment in that thread. I will not feed that troll.
...no matter how much I might really want to.
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@R. L. Dane :debian: :openbsd: I really don't want to look it up again.
The gist of it was that neurodiverse people should stay hidden and avoid drawing attention to themselves because there are bad people out there who would do them harm.
They seemed genuinely surprised that people took offense to this.
Does #Haskell's microlens-platform
really not have a function of type Int -> Lens' [a] a
?
That seems an odd omission.
Also the quoting rules vary, line & row limits, space trimming, how decimals are represented, header or no header…
There's an RFC but I expect more non-conformant files than conformant.
I'm now on so many meds with such complicated rules about when and how to take them that working out a medication schedule kind of feels like solvong the wolf, goat, cabbage problem.
I guess that's just what it's like to get old.
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S3 E2 Cults, Caution and Comedy: Lisa VanArsdale on Experiencing Cults and Communities
Hello listeners and welcome back to Season 3 of the Cult Vault Podcast. In this episode, Kacey is joined by longtime friend of the show Lisa VanArsdale. Lisa diSpreaker
Argh! Why is @Nextcloud 📱☁️💻 not telling me that there's a new version out? I'm on 29 and it's telling me it's up to date.
Maybe it's a PHP thing because I'm still on 8.2.20, but that should be supported.
Season 3 Launch: What is Coercive Control?
As I return from my studies in the Psychology of Coercive Control MSc programme at the University of Salford, I'm looking forward to covering more content on thSpreaker
Without fail, every time I boost a post about discrimination on the fedi, I end up seeing a bunch of white guys trying trying to minimize it and telling the original poster why they're wrong and/or being unreasonable.
I'm getting the impression that just maybe the people complaining about this aren't making it up or something.
Weird, right?
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I do frequently read signs aloud because it does help me process.
When I repeat questions back to people it's mostly to make sure that I understand what they're asking. Sometimes I will paraphrase if I find their wording clunky, and re-asking it back is seeking confirmation that I understood it correctly.
I don't *always* do this though because most people find it offputting and I'm a highly masked individual most of the time. But when it's important, oh yeah, I repeat the question back to make sure that I "got it".
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Echolalia (repeating someone’s question or statement) is often linked to autism & ADHD.
I have a theory about ADHD. (I am an educated, well read person, but NOT a qualified expert.)
ADHD might be a particular basket of autistic behaviours relating to a need for extra, more powerful stimulation. If a person’s traits fall mostly within that basket, they’ll be diagnosed as ADHD. A person’s ADHD traits might seem to balance their autistic traits, making late diagnosis more likely, but might be confusing & unsettling for that person.
But if diagnosed with & medicated for ADHD, their other, “more autistic” traits might become more apparent.
Unfortunately, perceived stigma around autism can result in some ADHDers rejecting that possibility.
My initial investigations into autism were discouraging, so I looked into ADHD & bingo! But I kept looking into autism, & once I came here & started accessing better resources, I was hit by a stream of “Aha!” moments.
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@Susan60 In general, having "only ADHD" and no additional diagnosis is not the norm. This only applies to about 30% of people with ADHD. I will find the numbers for you but most ADHDers have at least one concurrent diagnosis, and many have multiple.
So most ADHDers that you interact with WILL have more. And I think autism is quite a common one. I have seen proposed that AuDHD might be a thing, and you present as either more ADHD or more autistic. ....1/2
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I think that, as they are currently understood, ADHD, autism, and AuDHD could probably be looked at separately. Just for getting better treatments etc. It makes perfect sense to me that when you have both the ADHD overrides the autism until properly medicated! Poor autistic brain bits. SO overstimulated 😔. 2/2
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We do know that ADHD often responds well to medication, although the extent to which it is necessary probably varies greatly between people & from day to day. It’s just a shame that some people. having addressed their ADHD issues, go no further. If they are autistic, but are in denial, they’ll be masking.
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That would be great!
I thought that ADHD exec function issues would be related to things like distraction, procrastination & forgetfulness?
My organisational skills can be brilliant due to planning (autism?) & excellent list making ability (ADHD management strategy?) . My mother was a prolific lost writer, and I reckon she was AuADHD. I reckon my oldest is ADHDAu.