A while ago I asked a question of the #ActuallyAutistic and #ADHD communities on my old Fosstodon account and got some pretty good feedback, so now that I'm back in my regular fedi home, I figured I'd do so again (as before, boosts welcome).
I find that when something is stressing me out, I'll obsess over it until I've either solved the problem or it overwhelms me to a point where I need to completely disengage (at least for a time). Often when this happens, loved ones will notice my distress and try to help in the form of asking questions or making suggestions. The problem is that if I'm in problem-solving mode it derails my train of thought, and if I'm in "disengage" mode it prevents me from... well, disengaging.
This frequently results in me responding in ways that are... unpleasant for all persons involved. I've identified this as a problem and am trying to find better ways of handling such situations, but it's easier said than done. Has anyone else experienced this? Are there any good strategies for dealing with it?
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One of my pet peeves: when someone (often an advertiser) says that something is "chemical-free".
What the hell does that even mean?
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Me in the morning before my #ADHD meds have kicked in:
Maybe the ninth time I walk into the bathroom I'll remember to put deodorant on.
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Ep. 319 ISKCON and other spiritual groups - Episode 150 Remastered
In this remastered episode I chat with someone who has experienced The International Society for Krishna Consciousness. Michael gives a deep dive into many typeSpreaker
Our local grocery store has a program where you can get a box of assorted discounted produce so long as you're not picky about what's in it. Katy and I had been meaning to try this out for a while, and it's been a pretty good experience so far. We're both creatures of habit, especially where food is concerned, and finding new recipes to figure out how to use the stuff we normally don't have has been rather enjoyable on the whole.
If keeping your grocery bill low is something you're trying to do, I recommend seeing if your local grocer has such a program.
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Outage Recovery
The machine that this node was running on failed on 2 Jul 2024. A new machine has been acquired and a restore from backup was performed. It'll probably take a couple days for the database to settle as it re-synchronizes with the rest of the network.
Edit: grammar (proofreading fail)
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I have a cheap multimeter because I do not require one frequently enough to invest in a decent one. I noticed something interesting though: there are a lot of seemingly metallic things in my apartment that are surprisingly good insulators? (e.g.: a (brass?) doorknob)
I thought the multimeter was the problem, but when I measure something like a wire, it seems to be okay. Is this normal?
I'll have to check if I have any spare resistors with known values laying around to better test the meter.
@𝕕𝕚𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕒 🏳️⚧️🦋 I thought maybe it was some sort of protective coating, but this makes more sense. I also found this potential explanation: techiescientist.com/does-brass…
Perhaps a combination of factors.
This is why gold is used in electronics so much. Copper may be a much better conductor than gold, but copper has surface oxidation that can get bad, while a thin plating of gold is... golden!
Aluminum oxidizes within seconds after scraping a fresh layer and why it's so difficult to work with
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Ep. 318 Dead, Insane or in Jail - Troubled Teen Industry. Episode 147 Remastered
In today's remastered episode, I have a special interview with author Zack Bonnie who has written 2 books about his time at CEDU and Rocky Mountain Academy. ZacSpreaker
Just checked the mail and a day that I have been dreading is coming to pass. My family doctor is retiring.
There's a new doctor taking on his patients, but my current doctor's records are all on paper and the new one's are digital. I need to have my records digitized (at my own expense) to have them carried over.
It gets even better though. I've been assured that the company that will manage this digital transition is "physician-managed" and my records will be "stored securely". I fully trust my doctor's medical opinion, but as for opsec... well... one of the options is essentially: "please write all your sensitive PII on this request form and email it to us in plaintext." Yes, I can drop the form off in person, but that's rather beside the point.
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A piece of information that is repeated frequently enough will have a tendency to assert itself as true in the subconscious mind. This is a fact that is frequently exploited by propagandists.
Perhaps reminding people of this frequently enough will help to defend them against the tactic (with the unfortunate side-effect of being really annoying).
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Oh right, the debate...
I think I'm gonna step away from my feed for a bit. I just don't have the mental bandwidth to deal with it atm.
It's actually annoying in ghci because the warning gets repeated every time you define something.
--pedantic
flag though (which turns warnings into errors).
Ep. 317 Ramtha's School of Enlightenment - A Daughter's Story Part 2 Episode 144 Remastered
In this remastered episode I chat at length with Alexandra who grew close to a family friend before deciding to follow him out of state and into the clasp of aSpreaker
Trying to wrap my brain around finite fields. I get how one can construct a finite field with an order of a prime number, but I don't get how it works with powers of primes. Everything I try to read on the subject eventually ends up getting into notation that I don't know how to read.
I think I get that a GF(p^n) has something to do with converting the field into a polynomial where all the coefficients are of GF(p), but that's where my understanding starts to fall apart.
Can anyone point me at something that will help me to better understand this?
Ep. 317 Ramtha's School of Enlightenment - A Daughter's Story Part 1 Episode 144 Remastered
In this remastered episode I chat at length with Alexandra who grew close to a family friend before deciding to follow him out of state and into the clasp of aSpreaker
Katy just got an ad for a "grounding sheet"... It's literally a blanket that plugs into a wall outlet so that you can be grounded while you sleep.
In case you're probe to static buildup in your sleep, I guess? How is this a thing?
So, I learned about Hamming codes a while back. They're pretty neat, but a lot of modern technology uses Reed-Solomon instead. I've wanted to learn about that one, but it involves some pretty heavy math that often goes over my head.
I've found a few different videos on YouTube that try to explain it "simply" but they all tend to gloss certain details over. After watching a few of them, I've noticed that the parts they gloss over are different from each other, and I'm wondering if I can just hunt down enough of them that I can piece the rest together myself.
All things considered, this seems a weirdly fitting way to learn it.
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Logged into my online banking to be greeted by a notification about an "unusual transaction". It was today's vet visit.
Yes. It was unusual. It was also entirely legit, but thanks.
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As a side note: I sent my parents a text asking if we could borrow $X to hold us over until next pay day. My mother replied by saying that she'd "accidentally" sent $(X + Y) and to spend the extra as we see fit. We have a tiny bit of breathing room again.
She is amazing, and I am so fortunate to have family who are able to help out in an emergency. It's not lost on me that many don't.
Benny (our cat) was under the weather yesterday so we took him to the vet. We went home with some meds and general optimism. He seemed to perk up later in the day.
This morning he's super lethargic and uninterested in his food. Which is super not like him. Have another appointment with the vet in an hour and a half.
Not only am I stressed out about the cat, but I'm also stressed about the added financial burden of two unexpected vet visits (and I feel like an asshole about the latter).
We'll figure it out, but if the universe could cut us some slack for like five minutes, that'd be great.
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in reply to Kevin Davy • •@Kevin Davy My partner and I have been through a lot together. We've gotten good at talking things out. It was actually with her help that I was able to work out more precisely why I was getting so seemingly irrationally upset.
Now I'm just working out what to do about it.
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I have no solutions
The idea would be if your loved ones were aware of what adhd is
I can say that I disengage too
And it's not negotiable
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in reply to stay hinged • •@loose cannon I hadn't considered that, nor in fact did I realize it was a thing to consider.
The most recent example was when this server failed. It's actually what prompted me to start asking. In addition to being a fedi server, it also runs a bunch of other services I depend on: calendar, file synchronization, contacts, to-do list, etc. All stuff I use to make navigating everyday life possible. Took me four days to fix (should've taken two, but I had to keep taking mental health breaks).
This was an extreme example, but it usually happens when something disrupts my regular routine, like losing my phone or keys.
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Home is a very specific environment. The need for home is the need to have things comfortably under control.
For you this means fixing disruptions as they arise. For some people else it can mean maintaining continuity in the face of any disruption, etc. In principle, I can see their point - after all, the truly tragic things in life are the ones that *can't* be fixed even by exuberant effort.
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But let's say there's an important logistical disruption that needs fixing, that is completely up to you, and someone comes along to disrupts that while ostensibly trying to help? Yeah that can be pretty annoying.
Sometimes people perform "trying to help" as a form of commiseration, because they need to signal that even if they can't find the keys or fix the server, they are there for you and can help with other things.
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